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OK so I am male/28 I've been with my BF for a year and a half (we're gay) and 3 nights go we had a massive argument.

In the heat of my rage I threw the contents of a glass of wine in his face, and then I made a run for it for the sake of my own safety.

We havent spoken since then, even though i have written him a long msg on facebook and told him we need to talk. He has taken most of his stuff and the only times he makes contact is to say something spiteful on SMS.

We live together and so the rent is our joint responsibility. I just about afford it on my own, but i wouldnt really have much money over to life the life I used to. My question is, should he continue to pay for the rent cos he choose to move out? If so, for how long?

Also i'm still not 100% sure that is definately over but the more time passes the more sure it is looking.

Please give me advice. THanks

It depends on who signed the lease. Also, if you signed the lease too, and he bails on you, it becomes a civil issue, seriously. You would have to continue paying the rent and take him to court for his half of the rent not paid but it will be payable to you and not the landlord. I am really sorry that you got stuck with the short end of the stick. I would be more concern about the rent and the money than the relationship it self.

If he has bailed out on you once, he will do it again. Many people including myself have gone through this before, and the positive thing is to take this as a learning experience.

Morally he should continue paying for the rent but you and I both know that he isn't going to, so you will have to handle it legally with him. You may take him court before hand to get a judgement against him to force him to pay for half of the rent - it depends on the state laws of where you are. Most likely your best option is to stay there, get a second job, pay for the rent, wait until the lease is up, keep receipts, and copy of signed lease with both names on it, and take him to court.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for your advice! Thats really useful to know. But actually he has been quite reasonable about it now and wants to work through our problems still living seperately but paying his half.
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