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ok so lateley my attitude been changing and i dont know why!!!im 15 in 9th grade if that helps!its like every time i get into an argument with my mom/sis/and teachers i pretend like im not listening to them!i look at the ceiling and walls and mess with my nails...pretty much do everyting but look at the person in there face wich is really rude but its almost like i cant help but to do it!!!i think i do it to make the person think im not listening but i really am!i think its just to make them mad but i really want to stop doin that!its really rude and disrespectful but i keep doing it and i dont know why!!!can someone please like explain why im doin this or like how i can stop doin this?!?!?! thanx!!!!!

I'm pretty sure it's mostly an age thing. Now that you're getting older, it seems like people should handle things in a more reasonable way than yelling at us--I understand that much. So I guess in our mindset, sometimes ignoring them seems like we're almost winning or being really defiant.
While the defiance is true, you're right, it does just come off as rude and disrespectful.
To stop doing it, when you're in an arguement with someone (be wary as to what sets you off--you could get an angry kind of reputation) realize that if you ignored them, nothing would be solved, and that would make things worse. Start at not playing with your nails, and maybe just try looking down. That way you won't have to look them in the face, and it looks a little more like you feel guilty, rather than have an attitude.
If you can do that (you'll have to work at it, but it'll work after a while), try to resort to looking the person in the face, and letting them speak thier part. This will prevent yelling, and they'll all see how mature you can handle something. This will actually even prevent future fights, and make it so people talk TO you, not yell AT you. It'll be worth it.

XOXO
KAT.

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