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Ok so my best friends little brother keeps kissing or making out with his guy friends, he is eight. Im over their house more than mine. i have nothing against gay people but how do we get him to stop!? I don’t want him to turn out gay. He said him and his best friend he was makin out with were gona have sex hes eight both boys and he was serious. I love him like a brother his sister and I realllly have no idea what to do and shes grounded for getting mad at him about it what are their parents tryin to do? What do we doo?!

There is so much that I HAVE to say on this topic. First I have to say that children today are WAY more advanced, and knowledgable than I was when I was growing up. I fault the television shows, music, and even cartoons have become outrageous at the day in time.

I am very concerned about this whole situation - not because there is a chance that your friend's little brother could be gay, but because of the sexual decision. Being gay or Bi, is innate, which means it's inborn. There are people who are bi-curious which means they CHOSE to experience the lifestyle out of curiosity. Being that he is so young, it's hard to determine if these decisions are innate or if he has been introduced or seen something which has caused curiosity. Is he sheltered?

I am asking this, because in studies, I have learned that sheltered children who do not get the opportunity to associate with the opposite sex outside of school or church, usually becomes attracted to the same sex, as a result of not having the ability to socialize with people differing from their gender.

Children are born sexually curious anyway. They begin touching themselves as infants, because of the sensation. I am saying that to say this, it starts with the physical feel or touch. Next the mental becomes involved as it matures, which is why it is very important and healthy that children are allowed to bond,talk,study and play with other children of all genders.

Have you or her talked to her parents yet? Where is his father? Is he involved in his life? I think it's time for a family meeting.If she doesn't want to tell it, you tell it! Tell the other little boy's family too as it does NEED to be addressed. I am not sure of their family's view of gay relationships, but regardless of this, the important factor is an 8 year old, discussing sex and already making out! If his parent's aren't going to get involved, then it's upto you and your best friend to step up. Please take him places to do things and make new introductions into his life.

Take him skating, swimming, to the park, bike riding, baseball games, shooting hoop, bowling, game rooms, spend time with him. Allow him to gain trust and a better rapport with you and his sister, and then talk to him about SEX period. At this age, support is important. It is more important to support as well as teach him the things he needs to know, than criticize or ridicule him.

Please also inform him of the struggles & discriminations that bi and gay people go through. I am not against it at all, but I do know & understand that they have much to overcome in this closed society we all live, because of people being set in their ways, as they stereotype and outcast people. There will always be someone to judge him and discriminate against him as he goes through life. At the age of 8, his mental isn't ready to deal with that and he shouldn't have to.

There are so many risks associated with the decision to have sex regardless of age, more importantly GENDER.

I am sorry my answer is so long, but there are several aspsects that needed to be addressed.

I hope everything works out so that it's a win win situation for everyone involved!

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(Rating: 5) his parents say its fine... me and his sister went with him and i brought my lil cousin thats a boycrazy little girl he didnt care at all, to the park does that change anything, hes serious
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