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I have been involved with my x-husband for 17 years now. We were married for 5 years and have been divorced for 2 years now. He has become so distant, and boring. We don't talk anymore, or do anything anymore and everytime I try to talk to him about our future he changes the subject. We used to talk about everything all the time. We were best friends. He doesn't answer any of my emails from work anymore. He doesn't call me on his lunch or breaks anymore. The only thing he wants to do when we have free time is sleep. Everytime I ask what he would like to do, he responds saying whatever you want to do, or whatever you want to eat. He asked me to remarry him 10 months ago, but I said No, I needed time. Now when I try to discuss the subject, he completly ignores me. Is this relationship over? When we aren't at work, we are always together so I don't think he is seeing anyone else. He has in the past, but I don't think he does it now. Does he not want me anymore. He shows differently than he speaks. What should I do? How should I address or approach it? (link)
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It has been said before and I shall say it again: "Actions speak louder than words." So no matter what he may say, how he acts is the main thing to pay attention to here. From a psychological standpoint his Bx (behavior) suggests that he depressed. This could be chemical or mental, or a nice meshing of the two. What his Bx also says, however is that he has grown bored with life, not just you. From what you describe he seems to have no zealous for anything.
In general, I recommend he see a therapist, one or two sessions, just enough to decipher if this Bx is from your relationship or his mental state, as this sort of Bx can be signs of serious depression or other mental problems. I would not declare the relationship over until you find out what is eating him.
***HOWEVER ***
If he refuses to go see someone about this, to see if he is depressed or what have you, then the relationship should probably end, as the only outcome would be that he would, more likely than not, drag you down with him.
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Rating: 5
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I agree with the fact that he is going through depression and some mental problems stemming from childhood. Thanks so much.
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