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well im the definition of "loner" i only have about 3 or 4 friends in this whole world. my boyfriend used to be my best friend, but he cant be my friend anymore because everything has changed since we started dating. im really happy with him, but i miss our friendship. i have another close friend, Nona, but she has so many friends besides me and shes always busy so im left alone. My boyfriend lives 20 minutes away and im not driving yet, so we only see eachother on fridays. and my other 1 or 2 friends i only talk to every now and again. like maybe once or twice a month. so they are more aquantince(sp) then anything. i always say that im happy where i am because i dont like being surrounded by people because im uptaining closterphobia(sp). but i just want a few more friends that i can talk to and hang out with and stuff. im fixing to try to get a lifeguard job, and that should add to my friend status, but im really shy. and i never start conversations. and see, all the time when i try to get friends? we become friends and then i get excited and just annoy them to death without even knowing it. or i do something wrong and they dump me. im just confused and lonely and bored and im already out of school so i have NOTHING to suck up the time with! and the lifeguard classes dont start until june...and i have nothing to do till then. any advice on how to get friends??

Hey You! :) Smile cause life is great, even though it can seem overwhelming at times.

Hang off on going for friends right now and take some time to focus on yourself. You might also want to re-think the lifeguard situation. You said you had a bunch of time, right?

You'll find that by taking a step back and thinking things through a bit more, you'll get much better results.

Your life has changed recently. Find something you really want to learn more about, a subject that interests you that you can also do by yourself. Rockets, lipsticks, nanotech, whatever interests you (as long as it doesn't involve writing/reading romance novels). Writing/Reading Science fiction and comedy is good. :)

Based on your description of conversation and luck with friends I'd recommend the following link on a syndrome called Asperger's.
http://www.aane.org/about_asperger_syndrome/asperger_fact_sheet.html

Whether the link is for you or not you'll have a better idea of how to look at yourself. The key is to look into exactly how your brain works for you and how it is different from how everyone else thinks.
Once you understand yourself, life will become much easier to plan and deal with. :)

-- Stay Honest

People become much easier to deal with and a huge amount of background anxiety will go away.

As you become more comfortable with yourself you'll become more comfortable with others and you'll definitely find more people that will be interested in being your friend.

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(Rating: 5) i read the link, and that sounds exactly like me. thank you for the info on it!
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