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Q: Okay i need some anger managment tips, because i have really bad problems. I get really angry really quickly. And i bite myself, i know its not healthy and i want to stop, but it feels so good. It takes away the pain...

Last july i had a problem with my cousin. He tried to get me to make out with him and he was getting really close to me and i didnt like it. He left and i tried to block it out of my mind, and i did for a while. Well then he came back during semester exams and i freaked out again, then he left and came back again in february and somehow got my number and pretty much stalked me. He lives in indiana. i live in ky.

But now everytime i go to his city i am REALLY cautious and dont do anything because i am afraid i will run into him.

And i met this new boy ty, and my brother is telling me we are related which trust me we are not. And i got really mad and went off and began crying and biting myself.

anytime someone brings up cousins or incest or anything like that i get sick at my stomach and begin crying because it brings up the bad memories that i have been tryin so hard to lock up.

Help me please :]

Hello,

I don't think you can lock up feelings. I try all the time to do that and I end up blowing up at anyone and everyone. I think that until you deal with it it's just going to be in the back of you're psyche. And that's no good because it will just keep coming back until it's put away the right way.
I think you should talk to your parents or someone in your family what happened. If you don't want to tell anyone in your family what happened. I'd also suggest going to a therapist. It might make you feel uncomfortable but they can help you sort through your feelings of anger and fear concerning your cousin

hope I helped.

:)

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