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Q: okayyyyyyy

so i like this kid ; lets call him "aaron"
and ive been liking him ever since the beginning of the school year;and thats pretty LONG.

i know he likes me. and he knows i like him.

but hes really shy.
and that led to - hmm. 2 sentences said to eachother .. twice a week?

Yeah if im lucky maybe 3 times.

and its been like that ever since.

we would hang out occasionally and talk on the phone, but i heard hes planning to ask me out.

Hes been saying that for the loongest time, or so i heard ( but i know its true), and now that its getting to the end of the year; i KNOW hes going to ask me out

problem;
If he cant even talk to me now.. how is he going to talk to me when we go out?

Another problem:

Also. uhhh. ha, im falling for his close buddy.
lets call him "Dave"
Me and Dave always talkkkk.
And im never nervous with him, i tell him everything and im always myself and he actually TALKS to me.
the other day i hung out with "Dave" and .. things happened.
We got realllyyy close.
And thats how i got my first kiss...

Yeahh..
but uh; im not sure if i still like "aaron"
.. i do and i dont.
And i told one of my best friends about it; and shes not supporting me..
well.. she kinda liked him for a year and when Dave was going to ask her out, she decided she didnt like him- and then went out with another guy.

So, she thinks its weird and it wont work out.
Also all my other friends say "it will ruin everything"

and .. how bad does it sound when im going out with - the guys that likes me and i liked him-'s best friend?

UGHHH.
so me and dave have been keeping it a secret.
and i only told like 3 people about it.

im screwed.
How do i prove my point that its NOT a big deal if i DO like him- shes the one who REJECTED him and moved on. why is this a big deal?
.... i like two guys and that cant be good.

just someone..
help me. give me some good long advice.
its eating at my bones; i NEED to figure this out.


thanks.
I need help!
14/f
hi. yeah i wanted to try to help you out on this. my name is michaela. well as for "aaron" and not being able to talk to him well i would just go up to him and jsut start talking away..like not asking questions but yeah know just talking about random things that happened..or something like that. and well as for his buddy "dave" i would lay low and just talk more with "aaron" and get to know him and talk more than about two sentences or three. i know its hard and complicated but trust me you can do it. also your friend who isnt supporting you..she might be jealous..its an easy thing to be..:)but just try and see where she is coming from but also if she cant be there to have your back 100% then she isnt a true friend.. and i really mean 100%. but anyways what people are saying about you and "dave" not working and you and him will like ruin things or of your chances with "aaron" that is a loud of crap okay. first of all follow your heart and do what you think is best. you know yourself more than anyone. but seriosly before you just go off with "dave" take another look at "aaron" i mean get to know him alot i mean even if things dont work out you can never have to many friends. plus getting to know someone for who they are for who they are..well that can be a special thing and not many people do that anymore..and it can really open your eyes to alot.

you know what muchaela; your right.
and i took your advice
and you wanna hear something?
Me and Aaron hung out yesterday
and i LOVE him;and we actually talk now.

i havent talked to Dave anymore; well not as much.

Ive seen so much in aaron now.
i think its because i didnt keep in touch anymore..

well. thanks
i really appreciate it!!

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MichaelaMarlene
hi i'm michaela. i have had a pretty down life but there are good things. i think alot of people have had it hard. some people try to understand but only the person who has had that one thing happen to them can only really know how they feel.everyone has emotions and feelings that are different from others. even if others were in that same position. they just have a different perspective of it. well i have a huge family. i have some issues with my parnts but ya. i try to help lots of people.. as much as i can. i write things to help me deal with stuff but sometimes i have to find something else. i love to give advice and i am willing to help anyone with questions!! i try to give the best possible answer i can!!!

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