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I'm just your average 24 year old girl as far as looks can see. I know that I seem young, and let's be honest..I am. However, I've been through a lot of things in my life. Things at one point I thought would ruin my life...but guess what =) I'm still here. I've survived it all and now I want to help others do the same! And it wouldn't hurt for me to meet a few more people too!
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I have been dating a guy for five months. He is nice and all, but I have feelings for my "1st love". We were together for eight months off and on, until I finally broke it off. I just couldn't take it anymore. He was lying and cheating. For five months now I have been in this nice, safe relationship and my ex has been texting me and asking me to break up with my bf and go back out with him. First I thought it was just a joke, but a couple weeks ago I was out of town and he text me and called me and apologized for all the things that went wrong when we were together. He told me that he just knew he was going to marry me one day and that he loved me more than anything in the world. He had never been so honest with me before. After much thought I broke up with my current bf, although I'm not ready to go out with my ex or anyone else right now. The day I broke up with my bf, I ran into my ex. We talked and he told me again how he just knows that we are going to be married one day. He told me all kinds of stuff, and then he asked how things were in my relationship with my bf. I told him that we had broken up. He tried to not look "too excited" about it, and he asked me if I was okay. I told him I had to go, and he hugged me and told me he loved me so much. That has been over a week ago and now my ex is just ignoring me at school. He hasn't text me or called me since that day. Why do you think this is happening? Did he just like the chase? Did he just not want me to be happy with someone else? I am so confused. There is no way I would go back out with anyone anytime soon, but I don't know what to do about him. I thought I had almost gotten him out of my mind, but I'm now back to the way I was the first time we broke up. I'm moody and crying over the simplest stuff. What should I do?
First can I say that you are brilliant to not have started a relationship immediately after leaving your BF. Most people don't use their head like that...it's very impressive and shows that you have a good head on your shoulders!
Ok so here goes:
Sometimes it's best to leave the past in the past (it's there for a reason). I don't know if he was just enjoying the "thrill of the chase" or if it was a case of wanting what he can't have, but either way it's too much for you to be putting up with. It may even be that seeing you with the "other guy" made him remember what you all had. Don't try and contact him, don't text him, don't call him. Let him do his thing and you do yours. You are single now..this is a perfect time to become more independent. Learn to love being with you and I promise every relationship from here on out will be 100 times better! Good luck and let me know how it goes!
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Thanks for answering my question! Believe it or not when I walked in to school this morning, there was my "1st love" holding hands and hanging all over some girl, who he has now added as his top friend on myspace. I guess he was just playing me and I'm so glad that I didn't break down and get upset in front of him. I really got upset later, but I guess I will eventually get over him. You are right! It's best to leave the past in the past. Thanks!
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