I have always seen myself as the mentor, the sage, the friend to run to at three in the morning and beg for help, and I have recently begun to openly embrace this role. You may say, "You don't know me! Why would you care about my problems?", and to that I say, "Because I would like to know you, and I want to help anyone and everyone feel better about themselves and their lives."
So send me your problems.
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how should i dumb my bf? i still really care about him and love him but hes not maing me a priority and cant handle having a serious relationship with me. i suggested a more casual relationship but he refused. i made it very clear i was unhappy and told him why on Sunday. he PROMISED he would fix it and asked me to give him this week to prove it and he has made no progress he actually made things worse! he has barely contacted me in the last couple days and tom we see each other and today he didnt even call! and i didnt do anything wrong! he hurt me deeply and it would take forever to explain it all so i will save you the sob story but what should i say?
i want to tell him [firmly] that it is over and because he didnt make me a priority and completely blew me off this week and didnt keep his promise and about how much he hurt me. and say i still care about him but he CANNOT do this to me. i deserve better {if he had truly loved me and cared like he said he would have been doing everything he could to talk to me and make things better}should i say what is in the {} marks? please just give me some pointers and what to make sure i do and what to make sure i DONT do. i know i need to NOT apologive because i always say sorry for things that arent my fault but what else?? thank you SO MUCH!! i really need some help because this is SO hard because i still love him and kept giving him more chances but i cant keep hurting myself. he already broke my heart. thanks again. i will rate :) (btw answer asap because i am doing this early tomorrow[Sunday]) (link)
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I believe that you already know what you need to do. You realize that you deserve better and that he is making you unhappy. You need to tell him exactly what you have told us here, especially what is between the {}. Just tell him that you gave him the chance to fix everything, and that he didn't take that chance. As hard as it is, you need to move on and find someone who is willing to work harder to keep you and make you happy. I'm sorry that you had to put up with such a jerk.
I hope that my advice helps.
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