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i have a boyfriend who i love soo much and he says he loves me too. he told me he was in love with me but i dont think hes mature enough to be in a serious relationship because he never makes time for me. i told him im moving though and it seems like we have been having problems since then. i guess he could possibly be distancing himself? idk but he has the wrong ideas about how to have a relationship anyway.

ok so my question is he keeps letting me down becauase i keep saying i want to talk and work this out and this has been going on since Saturday! and he hasnt made time. he keeps saying tom we will, tom. but nothing is happening. i was going to just break up with him but first off i dont know what i would do without him-he has been my best friend for 2 years and my bf for 3 months. but my mom says to wait another weakto see what he does and that i should just be casual and not keep getting upset and just act like everything is ok and find out who he really is and what he going to do about everything. i keep waiting for him to show me he cares like he said he would but he isnt. should i wait another weak and not get mad at him (my mom thinks being upset at him probably makes him not want to talk to him-i dont yell at him or anything but my mom says im a lot of drama) the thing is idk if i could go another weak because watching him let me down over and over is just tearing me up. my heart is breaking because i put so much into the relationship that he apparently doesnt. and he doesnt want to change things so he has more time for me because i know he has time but he says he gives me all the time he can. he always calls and then is like i have to go do hw after talking for a while. sometimes 15 minutes sometimes an hour. but he gets home and doesnt do hw until after dinner or does hw but watches tv first and during his hw. i mkae time for him but he doesnt for me. i love him and we had such a great relationship. i put so much of me into that and gave him my heart. now im afraid hes breaking it and dont know what to do.

Bottom line: should i stay with him for another week and act nice and see if he reaches my expectations or break up with him so i wont keep getting hurt more and more.

also how do you tell yourself to stop caring because my mom said nxt week to just say idc if he calls or not w/e then hes not for me. but i cant not take offense to him not calling or not showing me he cares. and im moving in 2 months!! i just wanted our relationship to go until then! he still wants to date but im done i cant do this anymore. please help me im desperate. and i will rate for your help

hello :) i agree is teen girls go through this alot.

if you;ve talked to him about how you feel, your concern over his probably 'distancing' himself, then give him some time to see if he changes. if he said he was gunna change and its been more than 2 or 3 weeks obviously he's not gunna change. im sorry, but i dont think u shud be crying for him, and putting in more than half the work when the guy shud be doing this. and as far as what your mom said...shes right! there are SO many gys out there, some better some worse. and if he's not willing to appreciate how much of a girlfriend he has then its time to kick him to the curb. not many girls will be doing this (chasing them and trying to keep the relatiomnship together) for so long.. you gave him an ultimatum??? if you didnt i suggest you do.. good luck and i REALLY hope you find a great guy, remember, its better to love sum1 for how they treat you than how they look...

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(Rating: 5) thanks!! that is great advice :)
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