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I've been seeing this girl for about 5 months online. Before then, we did all kinds of stuff for about 9 months. I'm not completely sure how I feel about her.
Before I started seeing her, I was in a horrible relationship. I had those sparks you're supposed to have when you kiss, but that was about it. It became obvious that she was crazy and I was scarred from it ((convincing me to have unprotected sex after making me incredibly depressed, then saying she wants to get pregnant and doesn't care who the father is. Treating me poorly in public. Lying to me and several important things and lying about me. etc...)) She came onto me a couple of months ago and the sparks were gone.
Anyway, I saw the girl I'm seeing now for the first time last week. I kissed her and there weren't very many sparks. It was nice. For the longest time, I was worried that I simply wasn't attracted to her enough. Sure, I thought she was pretty, but I wasn't sure if that was enough. She stayed a week with me and left today. I wasn't sure how I felt about her, but I knew I cared for her more than anyone else.
After I got back from dropping her off at the airport, I noticed dishes that she left out and her bed was still unmade. I broke down into tears and have been crying off and on since. It wasn't just because she is gone, but that's what set it off. I'm not the type of guy who cries because my best friend leaves, so I think my feelings are far deeper than friendship.
I want to stay with her, but I'm afraid that I'll always be afraid of getting close. Other things scare me about the whole thing (We live 27 hours away from each other, she's only 17 and I'm 23) and probably contribute to my fears. But I cried so hard for her. Harder than I can remember ever crying before. It's more than friendship. Most of the time I'm comfortable with her in my arms.
I'm wondering if anyone else thinks the same. Is there no chemistry or am I still just scarred from my last horrid relationship? I should mention that she's the only girl that has gotten me to cum with a condom on. Sex seems to be great, but kissing is only just nice. I have plans to go to her house for a month this summer. I think I might love her, but I'm still confused. Is there any advice on how to deal with this situation. (link)
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First of all your already in trouble.That rape in most states.She's only 17.Let things cool for awhile or at least until she becomes of age.If you still want to have a relationship with this girl then try it again.All guys will go through the 'demon girl age'.There are plenty of them out there,that's for sure.psycho girls are in every town,city,or just around the corner.As for lasting romance,their not worth a hoot.They are great in the sack,can't get any better but they don't last and they are empty shells.You've been dumped on as most of us men have so there is nothing new there.I would just take it easy for awhile.At 23 its not like your on your death bed yet.You got plenty of time to get your life in order.Do that first and then when you do find that special someone,you'll be more ready to know what you want in a woman. April 1st.:Thank goodness you had me worried there for a minute.Most of these letters really don't give very much information to go on,so we have to make some guess work.Now that I see your legal I hope the best for you.I still think you should step back a little,don't rush into anything and what 17 year old makes the bed and cleans up after herself?(Before I get sock with this one,There always exceptions to the rule). By most standards shes still a kid.It will take time for her to get into some order.That may come later if she moves in with you.You said that she lives 27 hours away.It takes me 16 hours to travel 1,300 miles.Your talking almost coast to coast.That's a long ways.Have you thought about moving to her state for a closer relationship or have her come to where you are.Remember that if she comes out here,you have to take care of her.She would have given up her life to be with you.If your going to visit her this summer,you will probably get to make a better choice on this matter.The sex may be good now but you have to look farther down the road and wonder if she is the one for a life time commitment.I hate to see people come together and then whatever they had is gone.I wish you the best.
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