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My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. Our conversations are largely internet messaging and phone convos. However she seems to be very closed off. It's almost difficult for me to get a word about herself out and she hates answering questions. I try to strike up conversation, but she seems to shy away from anything related to her life. It takes a lot of manipulation just to learn her favorite food/color/tv show/etc.
I'm not sure what to do. I really love her, but it's like she's barely there. Any ideas guys? (breaking up is not an option I want to consider, thanks) (link)
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I am so glad to hear this from a guy because I'm in a similar situation in the least.... but advice wise... she may have trust issues because she's been hurt in the past. It wouldn't matter if it was previous relationship or my someone close. To close yourself off, is just a way she decides to protect or prevent herself from more emotional and psychological pain and suffering that's all. I commend you for not giving up on her and wanting to help her, and not leaving her alone when technically she probably needs you around her the more than ever since you sincerly love her. She just needs to feel secure with you, if you've done something in the past that created great pain within yall relationship, I will say its gonna take a lil more effort on your part to recover lost ground with her. But if you are a real man who can stand next to your woman on her darkest dreary days and is there for her best intentions without expecting something in return other than her opening up to you... she"ll trust you and start opening up. Its just human nature to react at distance with the people you really care about when they let you fall and is not there to offer a hand to pick you up or tend to your wounds...especially when you're in a relationship. Flaky people tends to mess it up for the good guys like yourself. Commit to seeing a bright day "WITH HER".... whole heartedly, and you'll both get what you want and need... together... I hope this helps.
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Thank you for the guidance, dear friend.
I know that my love was raped in the past, by her brother's friend no less. I hope to have her open up eventually and be willing to tell me all the things that bring her joy, and the things that bring her sorrow.
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