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i don't think you guys understood my question.
i am completely aware of the fact that it's unfair & terrible for me to be mad at a girl who did nothing wrong.
THEREFORE,
AFTER I CAME TO THAT CONCLUSION,
i went to advicenators to find out
HHHHOOOOOWWWWWWW
to stop being mad at her & being jealous of her grades.
not to be retold that it's unfair & terrible.
can someone please help me? i really need help & advice. i cried so long yesterday and i felt so worthless... i need you guys to please help me. she gets perfect grades. i don't want to cry as i type this but i can't help it...
I had a best friend in middle/high school that would always do better than me at everything. Sports, popularity, especially grades [she ended up being valedictorian of our graduating class haha]. Yeah it was frustrating, I felt like I would always be compared to her because I was her best friend. That sucked. Then I found something that I was better at, for me it happened to be music and art. My self-esteem and self-worth grew tremendously, and I no longer felt worthless as compared to her.
Looking back at high school, I realize that grades weren't that important for getting into a decent college. I had alright grades, nothing spectacular, but I still got into the college I wanted. Don't be jealous over her grades, once you're done with high school you'll realize how worthless it is to stress over them to the point of making yourself overly upset. Do what you can, that's all you can do and that's fine. From what it sounds like you're still getting good grades.
Jealousy is normal, but yours seems a result of low self-esteem. Anyway, I suggest to get over your jealousy, find something that you are better at than she is. There's gotta be something, she's not perfect. Don't like shove it in her face when you figure out what it is, but keep it to yourself and just find satisfaction in knowing what you are great at. Yeah it's not a cure for jealousy but it can help dissipate it, what's gonna make that jealousy go away is realizing your potential and growing your self-confidence.
You'll change a lot in the next few years, discovering who you really are, and if you really want to get rid of the jealousy you will, whether it's through counseling or just through growing up.
sorry for the long answer, hopefully it provided some insight into what you were looking for.
(Rating: 5) finally, someone on the site that can give some real advice. no words can express how thankful i am to you. no one understood my question completely except you. don't apologize for the long answer, please. you're awesome.