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My name's Evan.
I'm a guy. I'm honest. I'm a listing ear and a shoulder to cry on. I'm trustworthy, and usually try to hold myself to high values. I never judge a book by it's cover (so to speak), and I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Life is real. I've seen too much of life to not know what I'm talking about. If there's something I honestly don't know, I'll tell you that. I'm also pretty mature for my age: I'm old enough to know better, but still young enough to understand.
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okay well this is what always seems to happen we start to like each other and then last minute when he seems to know hes got me falling for him fast again. he just leaves it at that. and it just seems to end just like that. and i really like him. and i want to go out with him again. and his best friend told me he likes me again. but today he seemed to not show it like he normally does. and i didnt want him to see that it bothered me. i wanted it to make it look like i was used to it. but i just need to know what to say to him or how to react to this situation. but it always seems to get to me. and im not sure what to do at this point.
thanks in advance ! (=
I don't see your age in there so I'm going to guess mid teens. The problem with dating at that age is most guys are immature. Not to diss them, that's just how they are. You said "when he seems to know..." which to me sounds like an assumption. Does he know? Is he being insensitive and cruel or is he just oblivious? Another thing about guys: some aren't very good at picking up on others emotions, some aren't good at showing emotions, and most aren't good at (or just won't) talk about there emotions.
So you say you're not sure what to do at this point. I wouldn't be either. Find out how he feels first, then go from there. Maybe he loves you but is afraid of commitment, maybe he's afraid he won't measure up, maybe he's just thick headed. Maybe (but hopefully not) he's a jerk. You won't know until he tells you. So how to get that information?
Ask him in private. Guys (myself included) don't like emotional turmoil, especially when others are around. Asking him in the school hallway or cafeteria or wherever his friends or your girlfriends could hear is not a good idea.
Put yourself out there. Something in the nature of a man makes it unable for him to bear the suffering of a loved one. Even if he HATES talking about his feelings, if he sees it's really bothering you, and he's a man, he will suck it up and talk to you about it. If he doesn't, either a.) he doesn't care about you, or b.) he cares but he is too afraid/young/immature and you will either have to wait until he grows up or deal with this kind of behavior for a while until he does.
NEVER sweep your feelings under the rug. That's the surest way to wreck a relationship. Making it seem like it doesn't bother you may make him "comfortable" but it doesn't help either of you in the long run.
Hope that helps, and good luck
-Evan
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ah. thank you so much ! (=
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