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Q: recently, I've been so under pressure, at school and at home, my parents are on the verge of splitting up and my exams in like 1 month, my friends aren't getting along and there all bitchy to each other, and 'm trying not to get involved but it's hard. On top of it all this boy I really like stopped talking to me for no reason. A few days ago I cut myself, I was really upset. The only thing is I can't help thinking about how good it felt and I want to keep doing it, but my friend noticed today and made me promise I wouldn't. I don't want to break my promise but I can't handle things anymore I feel like I need to do it more and more to release my tension and anger, but I know it's bad. help me, what should I do?

First off, You should lift some of the weight off your shoulders. Your mom and dad are just your mom and dad. Whats going on between them really isnt your business. I myself had to learn that. If they are going to split up, they are going to do it regardless of what you do, say, think, or feel so try to take that off of your mind as much as possible.
You want to release some tension or anger? exercise so you can sweat it out. Take up boxing, swim, anything but cut yourself. Write it all down. Any way that it comes out its gonna come out. If you have to scream into a pillow do that.
Tell your friends, if they were really your friends they wouldnt let whats going on between them effect you. You can be everyone's friend without being in the center of comflict and if they choose not to accept that then they arent true friends. Because true friends wouldnt want to lose you over somebody else's bullshit.
Now the guy. Its so many boys in the world!! Im sure that isnt going to be the last guy you like. So stop stressing over that. He may be going threw problems of his own. Work on passing your exams then worry about everything else, because your education and your future are way more important than all of this stress.

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thanks, that actually really made me think. thank you xxx

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