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Q: PLEASE HELP! I love my boyfriend sooo much and i dont know what to do. im moving in 3 months and he and i have best friends forever and liked each other off and on the whole time but only recently started dating. the thing is i just told him i am officially moving thursday but he knew there was a high possibility for 2 months. he almost cried when i told him and he is NOT emotional. the problem is i need him to be there for me and he isnt. he is acting like he doesnt care even tho he says he does and a thing of mine is dont believe what a boy says but what he does. and what hes doing and what hes saying are two different things. i need him-i really, really need him. hes always been there before but now hes not. hes my best friend and my other best friends are helping me but they are also hurting. im trying to be strong for my bf, my little siblings, my parents, and my friends but i CANT. Its so hard and i need him. I know I have God (im a strong Christian) but i need my bf. hes always been there to help me when i had problems with God, my friends and my family and now he just isnt. he is acting like he doesnt care and i need him to show me he cares now more than ever! i tried telling him this and i think hes starting to understand but he said he doesnt know what to do. i understand this and i kno its hard for him but its even harder for me! what should i do??? and i only see him like once a week so i wont see him again until friday. please help cause i love him and im trying to be strong for him and everyone but i really need him to help me. i was breaking down today (the first time in front of him) and he tried to help but then was like i have to go do hw sry. i kno its soo hard for him but i still need him. im trying not to be selfish and help him but i need him! thanks so much and i will rate

He is probably acting like this because he doesnt actually now how to react to the situation. As the time gets closer he will probably pull away from you more because he doesnt know hoe to react to you leaving. Dont take it as him not caring take it as him not knowing how to express himself.

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