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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Recently, there is a rumor circulating with the male population at my school that I like this guy named.. let's call him 'Bob'. Bob and I talk a lot, and we're pretty close. There's this other guy, Dylan, who noticed us talking [when we talk, we stand very close]. So, supposedly, Dylan talked to Bob, and was like 'Hmm, so you and [my name] were flirting again?" and Bob goes "Yeah." Dylan is convinced that Bob likes me.

Today, Bob confronted me and was like 'Yeah Dylan is a pansy, he said that you like me, whatever, he's gay', stuff like that. It almost seems like Bob is avoiding me. He and my other friend talk a ton, but I'm pretty sure that they're really just friends. Every time I try to start up a conversation with Bob, things just get really awkward, it's not as comfortable as it was talking to him now.

I really don't want to lose my friendship with Bob, I really do like him [maybe even more as a friend], but I've seen him kind of act like a jerk. My friend jammed her finger against her locker, and he kind of smirked.. I'm thinking of just moving on, and letting him come to me, because he's sending me mixed signals. I really don't know if he likes me, or not...

I need advice.

He's probably just shy. Guys tend to shy away from girls they like when their friends start realizing whats going on. He wants to avoid embarassment (and possibly a heartbreak from being shot down).

You should continue talking to him as a friend. Try and start conversation. If he keeps avoiding you, call him out on it. Tell him you don't understand why he's shunning you and it's not fair.

Maybe once you guys get back to talking again you can figure out if it's worth taking your relationship to the next level.

But for right now, you need to get him back in your friend zone at least. If all fails and he continues to avoid you, move on. He's immature.

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(Rating: 5) I hope that's the case.. I'll try that though.
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