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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

i lov a girl n she loves me too. she was in a relation with a boy for an year then they broke up.she said that on the name of physical relationship she had only smooched him once. after 6 months since our relationship started i met with the boy and he claims to hav had sex with her,when i questioned her she admitted that he had touched her , but not below the belt. now should i belive her or not? is she telling the truth?
she say she cant live withot me but am a kind of guy who wants to marry a virgin girl.
p.s. i am 19 and my girlfriend is 18.

This really is a hard situation to be in. You need to really ask yourself how well you know and trust your girlfriend. I mean, you obviously know your girlfriend way better than the guy who said that stuff. If she has been faithful and truthful to you in the past, I would believe her.

However, she did let him touch her, and that's a cause for concern right there. It might be time for a break. It doesn't seem like your girlfriend really knows what she wants since she's going back and forth between you and her ex.

Trust your gut on this one. If something doesn't feel right, even a tiny bit, move on.

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(Rating: 5) thanks there! i guess the guy told lies just to take revenge of some kind. now my gf cries a lot coz i am not believing her when she is telling the truth. i guess i shud give her a chance.anyways great advice there. thanks agaian.
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