Member Since: February 5, 2008
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Last Update: September 29, 2008
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im 16/f. my dad drives me insane. we both have high tempers and can get mad really easily. he flips out over everything! if his mail is not separated from the rest of the family's mail, he complains, he complains if im not in bed by 10pm (im freakin 16) i wouldn't be surprised if he called my dorm while im in college next year asking if i went to bed on time. he never ever thinks hes wrong. when he gets mad he always throws my stuff. he doesn't do anything around the house. all he does is the laundry but he barely does that! the washing machine does the laundry but he demands food and coffee from my mom all the time. once she was sick and in bed and he was lying next to her watching tv and he tapped her on the shoulder non-stop for an hour and a half until my mom finally got up and made him coffee and his excuse for not making it himself was "i do the laundry and fix the cars". he's rediculous and the only love he's ever shown me was by buying me stuff. he buys me leather jackets that i don't want, my ipod, computer for christmas and none of this stuff i even wanted but if my jeans get too small and i need new ones hes deffinately not going to pay for it. he only gives my mom $100 for food a month and for anyone who's been in a grocery store in the past 20 years(obviously not him), you can't survive on $100 a month for food. my mom doesn't have a fantastic income so it's not like she's much help with the money situation. my dad calls my mom fat all the time. my mom was going to get a divorce in april and we even started looking for appartments and houses for us to move out but she didn't have the money to pay for the divorce lawyers and all the expenses. she even told me that the only reason she married him was because she wanted children and she thought he was the last guy she'd ever meet. then once she got married they just had me and then when my mom wanted another kid my dad refused. they fight everyday even if we're on vacation or it's a holiday. my dad always starts the fights. nothing my mom does can ever be good enough for him. my mom got a new car, a car that my dad picked out and once they got it he complained that she made a bad choice, even though it was his pick, it was her fault they had to get that car because her credit was so bad. it's a nice new car too! i can't stand him anymore and my mom's been saying she was going to get a divorce ever since i can remember and then when we talked about it in april she was surprised to hear how supportive i was of it so she was more willing to do it.
ok besides that he treats my mom like crap the problems i have with him is that:
-he wont let me watch a movie that says any curse in it (even though i can buy my own rated R movie ticket in a few months)
-i have a bed time at 10pm when i'm 16
-he wont pay for my clothes unless they're from walmart or the dollar store
-he wont let me drive his precious honda, meanwhile my mom feels safer with me driving than my dad
-he only shows his love by materialism
-he doens't know the names of my friends and i've been friends with the same people since kindergarted
-he's in denial about my age and even though i'm 16 he thinks a guy who is 17 will be too old for me to even talk to
-if i voice my opinion about any of these issues he blames my rediculous outspoken behavior on my mother
-the other night his constant nagging about nothing and temper made me so frustrated that i had to go in my room, scream and cry like someone died....and then of course i got in trouble for being a baby.
-unless i'm a doctor, then no other profession will be good enough (i want to be an architect)
i can't stand him anymore and i dont know what to do about it. (link)
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Hi..I think you and your mom should hang out with him for a while. I dont think you should go ahead and leave him after all these years. I think he will change one day and if he doesn't, you and your mom should just keep treating him nice and overlook is moody moments and show him that you love him. they say love is reciprocal "you get it back when you show it"..so just keep showing him love and you'll be one big and happy family again..He doesn't seem to be a violent father..If he gets violent all that then there will be nothing wrong with leaving him...I think he loves you though but he does not how to show it...that is why he gives you clothes all the time and over protects you by making sure you go to bed on time...just teach him how to show you love the right way...hope I helped
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he'll laugh at you if you show him any emotion. the only day he kisses my mom is christmas. one day a year and if she asks for it any other day he'll laugh and push her away. and we are nothing but nice to him.
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