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Q: we've been going out for about 2 months now, and he says he 'loves me'..we're both 16 and in the same grade..i'm the girl. lol

my first - i'm his like 7th gf lol
well, i'm easily manipulated. and i can't help it. i might get the courage to break up with someone and then immediately change my mind..because i'm too nice. and sensitive. my boyfriend has too much control on my feelings. he flirts with my friends - who are all girls...and then comes to me telling me he loves me. i don't mention the whole flirting thing because he denies it anyway. and this upsets me. i feel like he is flirting behind my back and so are my friends - and they're all in it together. as if they don't care. as much as i know he's a jerk - i still REALLY like him and i'm really attatched and i know if i break up with him, i'll be completely heartbroken and devastated.
today, i read over my friend's myspace comments and saw how my boyfriend was telling her about calling my other friends. he calls ALL my girlfriends..and he doesn't call me. he never does.
i don't know why this is. my friends may be more outgoing than me - but he is, after all, my boyfriend - he should show some respect. but it's as if he doesn't care.
whenever my friends come to school - he's so enthusastic about saying hello to them. with me, it's like...oh.. hiii...*gets physical*

please help. i really appreciate any advice at this point. i don't know how many more chances to give him. i'd give him 5 or 6 or 7 - but i know he'll keep on hurting me.
Do not give him another chance. Not only does he not respect you, he doesn't care about you. You deserve better than that. He's got you as a make out buddy. I know it'll hurt but you need to break up with him Now. The longer you stay with him, the more you will hurt and the more attached you will become. If he really cared about you he would call you, spend time with you and not flirt with anyone else. He knows your weakness and he is taking full advantage of it. He says he loves you only to play with your emotions and make you stay with him. Relationships take a lot of work: committment, dedication, time, respect, trust, sacrifice, compromise, love...etc. Where is any of it? He is not committed to you if he is flirting with other girls and especially when he doesn't flirt with you. That is not respecting you and he has given you no reasons to trust him. He is a player and he is possibly cheating on you with one or more girls. Dedication? He is dedicated to calling other girls and spending time with Them. That is not love. You deserve someone who will care about you just as much as you care about them; someone who knows what a relationship takes and who is willing to make it work. You need someone there for you. Your boyfriend will never change or be what you need. You need to must up the courage, knowing you Will Find Better and leave him. He still won't talk to you, he still won't call you. Best of all, he won't be able to use you for your body no more or call you his to keep you from finding someone better. And these so-called friends of yours? Friends don't flirt with their friends boyfriends. They are not worthy of your care or time either. You will go through a lot once you make these changes but it is for the better. Don't let him make you feel like the way he treated you was your fault. You have a big heart. When you care about someone you really care about them. That is not always a bad thing. You need friends and a boyfriend who appreciates who you are and that can give you that in return. Be strong. I wish you the best and if you need anything else, I'm here.

Thank you so so so much. I really appreciate it. And you're right; he's using me as a make out buddy. So true. Thanks :] I'll break up with him

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