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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

I have a very big problem. I have a MEAN band director. I want to quit, but don't want to. What should I do?

This depends on how much you love band, or rather how much you don't.

If you truly love marching band and it makes you happy, don't quit just because your director is a jerk. If marching band really isn't a big deal to you, then by all means quit and join another activity.

If you decide to stay in marching band, it would be a good idea to ask to speak with your director about some of the things he does. You can be perfectly mature about it and calm. If it would make you feel better, talk to your principal, or another school adult you trust, and ask that they be present when you talk to your director. Tell him why some of the things he does upsets you. Offer him suggestions you think he should do in order to be more fair to the band. As long as you talk about the bands' interests as a WHOLE, he has to listen to what you have to say.

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