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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

im 16/f and my friend is also the same. Well last year, she went on a diet, and lost weight, and she looked good. But we were close then, so I couldnt tell you how much she lost. Well this year, we're close, and she went on a diet. Before then, she gained about 5 lbs since summerish. Shes about 5'1 and she has a stomach, but she pulls it off. Well like I said, she went on a diet. She was like 140-145, like me, but I;m 5'5. Shes done to 135. The diet she went on was the 1000 cal. diet. In my class we were talking about diets and my teacher said thats a very bad diet. Like super bad. Well her goal was 135, and shes a pound under, and now she wants to be 130. Does it seem like she has an eating disorder? She says she doesnt care about the weight, but the look. But to me, it seems like shes caring more about the weight then look.
Now I;m 5'4-5'5 and 145lbs, and I'm happy with it, bc I look sooo much smaller then what I weigh. She looks great! but I'm starting to think that maybe she has an eating disorder?
My questions
Does going on a 1000 cal. diet mean that she has an eating disorder? & What do you guys think I/she should do? thanks!

The best thing you can do for your friend is express your concerns to her. Tell her you're worried about her health and you don't think it's safe for her to lose anymore weight. If she gets angry and pushes you away, it would be a good idea to let an adult you trust know what she is doing to herself. The good thing is that she is still eating each day, but I personally think that a 1000 calorie diet is not healthy at all. It sounds like she is starting to get super obsessed with losing weight. I would definitely express your concern to your friend and then use your best judgment. Based on her reaction, you may or may not want to let an adult that can help her know.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, I have tried talking to her, me and my other friend, all she said was "I sometimes eat over 1000 calories" and she seems like madish..
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