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My name is alix. I'm fourteen &i live just moved to massachusets. i love all of my closer friends; theyre my life. i like cats, and my favorite food is soanish rice. i like going to the movies with all my friends; we do it every friday. it's a routine. i love giving advice about guys, but what i really love are questions from guys about girls. im really opinionated, but im usually not very harsh when i answer things.

advice

15(F)
I'll be 16 in a few weeks.(Feburary 7th)
My boy friend is 17 (a year and a half older)
First off I just want to thank all of you in advance for reading. I really appreatiate you taking the time! But please refrian from bias opinons. Please don't judge my choices or tell me I'm wrong. I'm just looking for honest advice (experiance recomended)

ok well let me start by saying my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. I am totally in love with him and this will sound stupid, but I really feel that he will be the man I marry. He's my best friend, but also one of hte only people I trust. (Here's where you won't judge me! =0])

We're not sexually active as of right now. We do alot of foreply but no sex.

The other night, we were in my basement and we just really started going at eachother. We were both totally turned on. So after a little foreplay, I asked him if he wanted to try to have sex. He always keeps a condom on him...just in case anything ever happens. He said "Yea, but only if you're sure you're ready. I am a virgin, so is he.

One of the reasons I'm in love with him is because the way he looks out for me. He always makes sure I'm comfortable with what we're doing, and that he's careful.

I said I wanted to, so he put the condom on. I was really scared/nervous since I'm no on birth control. He said that he wouldn't cum in me, but he would still use the condom. He also wants me to be on birth control.

The second after, my mom yelled down to tell me something and I felt a little releavied. I just was so scared about getting prenant, I forgot how much I wanted to share this moment with him. I kept asking him what he was thinknig but he seemed to maintain composure. Is his age at all a difference as to why he was so calm?

This has happened a few times in the past week where we have ALMOST had sex. About 3. This was the closest.

So the mood was gone and we stoped. I felt bad because I know we're both ready and he really loves me. A few days after I told him that i felt relieved, and he told me I probably wans't ready. He doesn't mind waiting. He said he'd wait forever.

Sorry for the lenght!
but here are my main questions!

Will he change after sex...will our realationship be any different?

Are there any ways I can approach the birth control situation with my mom?

Will I get pregnant if I'm on birth control, he uses a condom, and he pulls out?

PLEASE HELP!
Sorry for the length
Please don't judge!

Thanks in advance.
I will rate you!

He might change after sex, lots of guys do. He sounds like the kind of guy who won't, because he's waited six months and he looks out for you. But still, you might want to hold off for a little longer. Guys who are in it for the sex typically won't stick around for more than nine months if they're not getting any. Consider waiting longer. You seem pretty worried, anyway. I don't know, but maybe you're not completely ready. You can be ready to have sex but still not ready to deal with the possibility of pregnancy.

When you approach your mom, you should start out by saying, "Mom, I'm not having sex, but..." Then you can go on to say that you're in love with your boyfriend who you've been with for a while. Tell her that you want to get on the pill "in case something happens" or "because, eventually I'll be ready." Let her know that you aren't having sex yet, but you are 16 and eventually you will want to.

If you're on birth control and he uses a condom, the chances of you getting pregnant are tiny. It's not going to happen. Pulling out actually could make it a little more likely, because the condom could come off once he's outside of you, and he still won't have come. Birth control plus a condom is really all you need.

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(Rating: 5) thanks! and for not judging me!
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