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i'm not exactly sure how to start this off, let me just say i love my ex best friend. and he knows this...and we are still friends..and what not...he has a girlfriend, but before the whole girlfriend thing, he told me how he lied to me on saying i wasnt his first priority..and apparently put asking his girlfriend out for 3-4 months becuase of me.. just so i wouldnt get hurt and whanot..when he knew i didnt want him to but he told me after he asked her out..anyways i still got mad at him for doing that...but in a way i understood that he cared about my feelings..now the hard part here is..he is always there for me..or was..when we were best friends..he never gave up on me when i had a problem..and always stood by me (ive known him for an year now)..when i messed up in our friendship..and that would be or should have been the end of the friendship..he always took me back and gave me another chance...and lately..i get this vibe that deep down that he has feelings for me, but wont say anything..and i have like 3 or 4 people also thinking deep down he has feelings for me..because he always gives me another chance..yet i known for that for the last 2 years he's been trying to get with his girlfriend..and finally happened..though i know they wont last that long probably since i know the type of girl she is..though im friends with her and what..and yeah...even though this whole thing hurts a lot..im still happy for him..i just don't know what to do..i know there is no way to get him to crack if he really does have feelings..i just dont know. heh...
im really glad you asked me this question because i've been through almost the exact same situation. You say that you've hurt him before, which jeopordized your friendship, even if he loves you he may be afraid of getting hurt. You are the one he loves, but cannot completely trust, and his girlfriend now is his "ideal" girlfriend but he doesnt love her. Right now he is probably trying to make it work with his girlfriend, thinking over time he will love her. and chances are he'll say things like "i love her soo much!" or "shes so perfect!" but at the end of the day, he will know he doesnt care about her the way he cares about you. My advice is to stand by him the way he has stood by you, and i know it might hurt but if you really care about somebody, you'll take the hit.
over time i think he will realize you are the only one for him, if he has given you so many chances i think he does love you. good luck and don't lose hope
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haha, thanks i needed that. :) ill give u an update for sure..i always tell people i will. but i never do.. haha i will be sure to do it for you.
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