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16/f...my boyfriend's 15/m (almost 16 though) i'm kinda awkward around my bf. i mean i REALLY like him, and he REALLY likes me. but he's my first and i'm not HIS first..
so i dunno what to do around him and i'm afraid i'll do something stupid and make a fool of myself. i'm afraid he won't like me anymore. like, when we were about to kiss, i freaked out, and we just pop kissed instead. he knows he's my first boyfriend and he's taking things slowly. but i dont want them to be TOO slow. i'm not usually like this around my friends. i'm just really scared that he's staring at my imperfections or something or that he thinks badly of me. and when we're going to kiss next time...but for REAL, i don't know whats going to happen...ahhh..
any experienced people...lol what do i do?
Finally! Someone who has my acute shyness. I was in the same boat around 9 months ago. I'd been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months and all I'd been able to bring myself to do was kiss him on the cheek. So the first kiss came and I can tell you it was nothing special... in fact it was horrific. I clambered into a bed after school and tried to sleep it off. For a LONG time. Attempts had made me do that before. Anyways, same day my sister and her boyfriend broke up - she was heartbroken. It put things in perspective. Anyway, have you told this guy how nervous you are? If he's experienced you're at an advantage girl!! He can teach you and if one of you is a good kisser, you're naturally going to follow and copy what he does - meaning that he can't say you're any worse at kissing than him. Me and my boyfriend had both never 'snogged' anyone before and we were BOTH dismal - but with time and practice it gets better. Remember, this boy REALLY likes you - as you say. He isn't going to worry too much, and far from feeling bad about it he probably wants to encourage you and help you as much as possible. If you don't want to go to slow - try it. Chances are, if its spontaneous then it'll be fine - just do as he does! If you don't have the confidence to just turn around in the street or something after you've had a really happy conversation and kiss him, try it slower. But it'll be so much better if you just do it lightheartedly, no pressure. Kiss him - kiss him again - kiss him again - then go for tongues. 4 point plan didn't fail for me the second or the third or the fourth time... :) If he's with you he wants to be with you. He's not there to pick you apart for what you do wrong. He's there to help you get better - and he's male. He'll love having someone to be good at that stuff with!
;) good luck
Faye
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much =)