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Q: 14/f

i went out with this boy for two months. lets call him richard? alright, well he was my first real actual boyfriend. and i was his first real actual girlfriend. i was his first girlfriend like ever. usualy i cant keep a bf for more than 2 weeks because i get really annoyed of them. so i found richard and he always said he loved me and that he wanted to last through highscool even though we are going to two different highschools. but he said he liked me that much.

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at two months he broke up with me for my best friend. it really hurt. at first everyone kept saying he still liked me he just didnt want to go out(but he liked my best friend too). so i still like him to this day (about a month later) and i hadnt heard of him liking me. so as much as i still liked him i knew there was no chance. i mean we still talk all the time and we are good friends. but we arent dating like that..but today my best friend told me that her boyfriend (richards best friend) said that richard would go out with me if i still wanted to. and richard asked me to hang out this weekend..


what should i do? im so in love with this boy..(despite my age) and if i go back to him, i would think he would just know i would always be there..no matter what he did to me..like i was always a last resort? but i dont know if he actualy feels that way..because i guess he really likes me still?

if you were in my position what would you do? and this weekend..what would you say to him and just any advice you have on this situation ill take.

thanks soo much and i apologize for it being so long :\
If he cared about you as much as he is claiming, then he would have never left you for someone else. You are right- he probly will think no matter what he does, you will always take him back. He will have the upper hand in the relationship and probably take advantage of that. Who is to say he wouldn't leave you again for someone else? Who is to say this time he won't cheat? I know you care about him so much but its best you dont get back together with him. Getting over him will be easier that way. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't have been thinking about your best friend or wanting to be with her. You deserve someone who cares about you the way you care about them. I wish you the best and if you need anything else im here.

thanks (:

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