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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

I'm 23 and T-E-R-R-I-F-I-E-D of going to the gynecologist. I've never been, and I know that's pretty bad. I know I need to go, but I'm so scared. I'm afraid of it hurting and stuff. What can I do to help myself?

Just relax. I promise it's not that bad. The worst thing you can do is go in all tense and worried. That will just make things worse. It only takes 2-3 minutes for the examination. It may help you to relax if you bring an MP3 player to listen to. It really depends on what makes you comfortable. When you go in your appointment, let the doctor know you're kind of nervous. If it would make you feel better, have her go through the procedure with you before she actually does it. As the procedure is going on, feel free to ask questions about what's going on down there.

The more relaxed you are, the less it will hurt. All gynos use different sized clamps and lube that will fit comfortably to your vagina. I know the term "clamp" sounds scary, but it's not as horrible as it sounds. All you will feel is slight pressure. Like I said, it only lasts a couple minutes.

I know on my first gyno visit, the doctor pulled out the tool and my mouth just dropped open. I thought "How the heck does that thing fit in there?!" But after lying down and relaxing my muscles, I could barely feel a thing.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks! Eeek. CLAMP! See, that scares me.
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