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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

alrightt. i really like this guy and i think he likes me to but he likes to move fast. and im get nervous about a lot of things. i made out with him the first night i met him and knowing thats the way he is everytime he wants to come over i get a weird feeling cause i only have known him for about a week and i feel like if he comes over we are going to have sex. and i dont want to be put in that akward situation. id rather wait get to know him. and take it slow. no regrets. i need to know how i can tell him i want to take it slow and not rush things. and it would be akward if i call him and say i do want to fuck youu right now. lmao !
pleasee [&&] thankks ! [;

The best way to avoid getting physical with this guy is to avoid putting yourself in the situation to do so. Don't be alone with him if you can help him. When the two of you hang out, make sure it's in a public place, Movie theater, not so much, but a bowling alley or mall would be a good place to hang out. Golfing is fun too. And you can't go wrong with going to get food. Guys love food.

If he makes a move on you, and you feel uncomfortable, tell him the truth. Say you think he's really great, but you'd like to get to know him better before going any further. If he's a cool guy, he'll understand and you can take things from there.

Once you start hanging out more and having fun together without the pressures of getting physical, I'm sure you'll feel much better about the situation.

:)

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(Rating: 5) thannnnks.
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