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me and my girlfriends went to a waterpark for me and my best friend's combined birthday party, and we met a group of guys there. the guys go to the highschool in the town next to us. me and one guy got especially close, we exchanged numbers and even kissed eachother on the cheek. we've called eachother a couple of times since we parted, and talked on facebook, but we havn't seen eachother.

i casually mentioned to my parents that we met a group of guys that we might hang out with again, and i even told my mom that my friends all think i should date one guy in particular. i didn't tell them that we kissed.

the problem is, ill be getting my licence soon, (he already has his,) but i know my parents aren't going to let me drive over to his town (especially alone, as a new driver, in a strange town). or with anybody for that matter! i could lie and go over there when i said i went somwhere else, or i could invite him over to my house, but his parents might say the same thing to him. how are we ever going to see eachother again? how can i ask my parents to let me drive over there, when i know they'll say no? (if i ask them and they say no, they'll be suspicious always that im going over there, im afraid) if we could possibly start dating, should I even tell my parents? what should i do? HELP!

Don't start your drving years off with a lie. Be honest with your parents and start by inviting him to your house, even if he has to be driven by a parent. Spend an afternoon with him at your house, around your folks. Trust in them and let them trust in you. Give it time. You can still date him, you just have to make special arrangements for awhile until your folks and his have confidence in you guys and your driving.
Whatever you do, don't lie, you never know what can happen when you are out, and when you get caught in the lie, cause you know eventually you will, you may never drive again....

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(Rating: 5) Good point. I'll get caught eventually if I lie, and then my parents wont ever let me drive again. or go out. or anything. I'd be grounded till I graduate. Thank you. of course its irrational to lie. I just needed somone to knock that sense into me. THANK YOU!

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