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i can't stand my boyfriend anymore, we've only been dating a couple months and he is always telling me how much in love he is and how he never loved somebody as much as he loves me. he made me meet his entire family, church members, friends, etc. and always tricks me into going to his grandma's house so i can become "friends" with his grandparents. and for christmas he got me a bracelet that has an engraving of "i Love you more than anything"... i just got him a blanket? again, we've only been dating about a month and a half!!! This is moving WAY too fast for me and i told him that he just got mad and ignored me.

second thing, we never do ANYTHING physical,not even a peck on the cheek. I don't really find him attractive but i didn't think that was an issue because i loved his personality, but it makes it difficult to be physical and im growing tired of his dirty jokes. He is so awkward about everything, he has to announce when he is going to put his arm around me or try to kiss me it makes me really turned off.

i want to break up so badly, because im really tired of all this, but the thing is he gets so moody about things. Before when i tried to break up with him he said "this isn't going to happen again." and it really freaked me out. Now i have his entire family, friends, and church members breathing down my neck if i want to break up with him he's going to make it so chaotic!

i guess my question is, how can i break up with him in a way that i can make him feel good about it, or at least not make him upset?
what should i say?

You are just starting what I hope for you will be a future of many different types of guys in your life and you ned to always be honest. Speak from your heart. You are not what he is looking for. You cannot be what he wants you to be for him and he deserves someone who will love him for him and love him as much as he loves her. You are that girl. It is time to move on before you both get so angry that you begin to truly hate eachother, because he will hate you if you stay with him, because you will soon get into the more physical and emotional part of a relatinship that comes naturally, and as you said, you are not physically attracted to him. We do need that attraction in our relationships, it is not the only part of a relationship, but it is a part. So honey, speak from your heart and know he will be hurt no matter what you say, but he will move on, and so will you.
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