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Hey everyone Im a 15 year old girl in highschool and I need some advice. My used to be best friend recently started getting drunk about a month into our freshman year. At first she started talking about it and I got really mad at her for even thinking about it. I made her promise not to go drinking and promised me she wouldn't. Then I here on homecomming that she drank before the dance with some of my other friends but I just assumed that she was acting crazy at the dance, not actually drunk. I had to hear from SOMEONE ELSE that she drank. So indtead of confronting her I gave her a complete silent treatment for 3 weeks. She finally wrote me a note saying how she was sorry how she messed up our friendship, how we used to be best friends, how shes an idiot, how shell never drink again and stuff like that. I decided to forgive her a few days later. So time went on and we were cool, but then like 4 days ago i found out she FOR SURE was drinking over the weekend. Then today I found out shes planning to go get drunk this weekend. Ive stopped talking to her since i found out she drank last weekend. Am I doing something wrong? How do I handle this? Do i talk to her? I care about her soooooo much. she also has a problem with being taken advantage of by boys. Her mom has cancer, her dads an ex meth user. She keeps trying to work things out with me but I always brush her off. Sometimes im pretty nasty w/ her. Theres more sides to the story, but i think im running out of room so i'll stop. Thanks for taking the time to read this...
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It really sounds like your friend is going through a rough time! Her mother has cancer and her dad's an ex meth user. It doesn't sound like your friend is in a healthy emotional state, either. She may be drinking in order to cope with her problems! There are two things that you can do:
1-Be there for her. Tell her that drinking won't solve any of her problems at home! Tell her that you care for her so much and if she's chosen to drink with her other friends to be cool that you don't want to be a part of that. Drinking so early and much in this stage in her life is only going to do her damage. If she responds to this message then you are doing the right thing.
2- However, if you tell her the above and she still tries to drink behind your back, etc. then it might be time to let this certain friend go. Sometimes there isn't much that you can personally do for someone that is making the wrong decisions. Care for her, pray for her if you believe in God, but don't get yourself wrapped up into a bad situation. She could turn the tables around on you and try to get you to drink.
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Hey thanks so much for the help. I should pray for her i never really thought of that. To be totlay honest I thought of everything that you told me to do but it feels good hearing it for a second time. Thanks again
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