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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Ok well, our house is FIVE houses down our school, safe area, and before I was born, my parents have been living there for liek probably 5 or 10 years longer!

And then one day my mom and us went to my grandma's house and when we went home, the second door was open (there's two doors in te front, a white one, and a see through one in front of it) and the lights are on.

We weren't even sure of what to do because this never happened to us or the neighborhood and frankly the visits from the police at our school to talk about us about these things didn't stick into our heads.

So..we decided to go inside.

We opened the door and there was this HUGE stick on the side of the house so we BOLTED right out of there and ran to the neighbor's house and rang the doorbell.

We aren't really close with our neighbors but still say Hi and stuff and he was nice enough to go into our house and look into every room to see if it was safe.

And there was noone there so after some re-assuring we all got the courage to stay inside.

And it was so hard for my siblings and I to go inside because we watch so many horror movies, we love them and want to see more, and while I'm in highschool they're only under grade 7 so our imaginations went wild and it was just terrible, we were on the verge of tears!

My mom called our aunts first and then I called then police.

There was a mess EVERYWHERE because everything was moved around but nothing was taken that I could see. There was even a HUGE box of coins and they didn't even take it and I'm like "wtf..maybe they're nice burglers and realized what they've done so they left it like this and left?"

The police eventually came but my aunt told us to shut our mouth until our dad comes home, cuz we'd never know what he keeps. He's the boss of the family so he must have big secret locations of his things.

The police looked around everywhere but the basement (my dad lives down there, everything is his) and when he finished my dad finally came home, and we have so much jewelery that we didn't notice but my dad did that they took all the REAL jewelery!

My mom wanted to go to her home country because our grandpa is sick. Her papers and stuff that she went through the trouble to get and fill (because her english and words aren't so Good) were taken.

We thought they didn't take anything but actaully, they took all the big stuff and MY DAD noticed!

From the basement, we have his huge desk with bills and papaers, etc. I could never find anything important there at all but those guys/that guy did! They took $5500 that secretly he's been keeping for my mom to go home and took $6000 of hsi own money. His WHOLE wallet was tooken which included all our family cards, health cards, etc and my brother's wallet with $200 and our extra money of $200 and my sister's money $100.

all my lcothes were around because they checked the pockets just in case too!

there was a big shoe print on the door because they must have kicked it (we noticed before the police came) and we found other clues too that might help them find the person and we didn't touch the door knob at all (all this we got form tv so that it would help)

Oh, when our neighbor went into our house for us, he found the back door totally open so he had to close it. So when the second police came, he couldn't check for fingerprints, which could have helped a lot, the foot prints in the snow of the back yard they said wasn't very clear or good enough so they couldn't check that and the shoe print on the door wasn't very visable so they couldn't check that either.

We found out the the 'long rod stick' we found was actually from the side of our door.

It was absolutely terrible...

All our valubles were taken and we reported to the police a lot of things and the missing items took TWO PAGES! of hsi notebook. We didn't report all the real jewelery though, theere must have been 50 but we only reported 6 to make it easier for them (which was really hard for me, other people worked hard at their job to buy it for us or our parents themselves and I won't let the robber get away with even ONE thing!)

So...what do we do now? I mean I'm so betriffied. They even took our key form our dad's desk which I dont know how they found and didn't even take my brother's key when it was visible!

Has anyone had something similar to them? Was the problem solved? What are the chances something good will happen to us?

Any chance they will show or bring the theif to us so I can punch them in the face? I'm weaker then a kindergarden but atleast one light punch on his/her/their face would do. Maybe I can bring my strong friends.

And there's noone we can think that would do it either.

What's creepy is that they broke in while we're gone and planned everything good, which to me sounds liek they've been stalking us and found out that we go to our grandma's house for certain areas every sunday.

We're so scared. My dad canceled all his cards which means now I guess we're poor. We weren't rich but had a lot of money and I just feel so..low being poor. Our school has this thing once a year where we help the community by donating money and on christmas, our Chaplin will go to the..unaffordable families' home (some can't even afford heat) and give them money. we donated A LOT! Now I feel so pathetic..I feel like i should be asking for the money back...

And I didn't tell my dad that I used up all my lunch money this week so I guess I'm starving for the whole week.

First of all, you need to look at the bright side of things. The most important thing is that your family is SAFE. The things that were taken can be replaced. Everything that was broken can be fixed. The money that was lost can be earned back. The police will do everything they can to catch whoever did that to your family.

In the meantime, all you can do is be thankful that they took tangible things and not your family's lives. As long as you have each other, things will work out.

If the thief ever returns, and you are home, it would be EXTREMELY unwise to deal with them yourself (aka "punching him in the face" will get yourself killed!). Just call the police and let them handle it. Don't jeopardize your safety just because you want to get even. Nothing good will come from trying to get revenge on your own.

Your family should consider getting better security for your home, such as deadbolts, and make sure to tell your neighbors to keep an eye on your house while your family is gone for long periods of time.

People can do really low things and unfortunately your family had to deal with one of those low things. Just stay positive and confident that your family can bounce back. Yes, some small sacrifices may have to be made, but all the damage can be fixed with time and patience.

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