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I am not a cutter but I have cut myself. Only a few times im not addicted. i have self-injured myself as well. My one best friend knows because she used to and i felt very comfortable telling her. my other best friend used to as well and im going to tell her too. she goes to my school though shes older but she will be able to help me even more. im kind of preppy and usually outgoing and happy. dont think im like an 'emo' or w/e. i want to know why i should stop because I know it isnt good but it helps me and just because its different doesnt neccasarily mean its bad-does it?

i know hurting myself isnt the right way too but i never cut deep or a lot and i don't self injury myself any more than mildly. its how i deal with stress and being upset. sumtimes i write but other times i dont have time to sit there and write i need immediate relief. thats what i think of it as-relief. quick, easy, relief. and it helps. i want to stop but in another way actually i dont.

im afraid to tell my bf because i dont want him to think something is wrong with me even tho he works at a teen youth center helping kids with addictions. he still might not want to date me-just be friends.

i have a lot im dealing with and thats just the way i do. my parents dont know either and they would freak if they knew. it isnt on my arms i have a couple on my stomach and a couple on my leg. 2 on my arm but you cant tell they were intentional cuts. i like seeing them and knowing that they represent what im dealing with. it comforts me. any suggestions or advice? i want to know why its bad and what else to do thats quick and easy. it feels like it isnt bad and doesnt really hurt me. it doesnt endanger me so why worry? i guess thats what i think. i at first (i just started last week anyway) i thought of myself as a 'cutter' but now im almost ok with it and just think of myself as a girl dealing with her emotion and problems in her own way.
Thanks so much!
f/14

that seriously sounds like i wrote that whole thing. i know exactly what you're talking about. i did and i still do sometimes. my parents found out and took me right to a psyciatrist, i felt like a psyco, and i didn't want to be there. but later on, i felt that it helped me stop myself. you said you don't do this that much, but writing, or finding some way to vent would probably help.

or even just getting away from eveyone and going running or something t keep your mind off of it.

i don't have much advice for you and i'm sorry about that, but i feel like i'm going through what you are too, and i open to talk about anything if you ever need someone.

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much! its nice to know other people feel the same way i do! its comforting enough :)
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