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Q: My aunt lost two of the men she was engaged to. Then, recently her husband cheated on her with two different people & drove a truck through the wall of her house. So, yeah, she`s had a hard life. She didn`t know who to turn to I guess, so she started drinking & smoking. When you destroy 100,000 dollars worth of things because you`re mad at someone, you know you need help, right? Well, I guess she didn`t pick up on that. She has two kids, the girl is 15 & the boy is 13. My grandparents & parents talked to my earlier & they said that I`m the one that she "adores" more than anyone, more than her own kids. They think I should try talking to her now. The problem is I don`t know what to say to her. I know she (the youngest child) always thought her parents never loved her cause she believes they favored her sister (my mother, the oldest child) & the one person in the family who she thought truely loved her died. All her life, she`s lost the people who have honestly loved her (including both of the men she had been engaged to + her husband leaving her). She won`t listen to anyone else. She`s been drinking for almost twenty years & she`s about 47 now. She`s gone to AA & it still hasn`t helped. She`s gotten a DUI, but finished all of the requirements that she had to do afterwards. She`s very sensitive, yet very stubborn. How am I supposed to tell her to quit drinking without completely ruining our relationship or just flat out making everything worse?

NO matter how you tell her sh is going to deny it and resent you from telling her. So they best thing to do is, get the whole family involved and you just be the leader. Flat out tell her that she drinks too much and you think she needs help. Tell her that you love her and you wouldnt want anything to ever happen to her.

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