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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

This is ruining my relationships with people because they are getting bored...

I have an anxiety disorder and I'm not comfortable with doing things with people. You know, like playing video games or sports. I don't like people watching what I do and I really don't like it when I happen to mess up.

How can I overcome this? I might be getting some medication but I don't know if it will actually do anything for this.

Any suggestions for something to do with friends?

If sports and video games make you uncomfortable, try doing a different activity with your friends that doesn't pose any type of competition (for lack of a better term). Go to the movies, have a movie night at home, go to the mall, go to the beach, listen to music and chat, etc. There are lots of things you can do with your friends that won't make you worry about messing up or worry about people watching you.

If that doesn't help, maybe try hanging out with a larger group of people so perhaps you won't feel like the attention is one you.

Hopefully that medication will help you out, but I'm sure you can overcome this and learn to have a good time with your friends! Hope all turns out for the best!

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