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Hi, I'm 17 and think I may be pregnant. I'm not sure yet so I am scheduling an appointment soon for the doctors. I was with my boyfriend for two years and September 2nd was the last time we had sex. I had my period September 11th and it was a regular flow-no 'spotting'. Now I'm not even sure if it was my period because I feel sick liked I've caught something, have gained a little weight-but that could be diet related, and my stomache feels chubby even when I flex it-its like jiggly and mushy feeling(so wierd).
Me and my ex are no longer together and live 300 miles away from eachother, and don't speak much but still love eachother deep down- yet I have no intention of being back with him. I'm scared I may be pregnant but am not sure and although I'm waiting to see a doctor I'm still freaking out! I should be graduating my last year of highschool this year early and moving on with my life... But does that include a child?
What I want to know is if that stomache jiggly/fat thing is a pregnancy symptom or if it is... Should I be seeing this now? I've only noticed it THIS last week.
& If I find out I AM pregnant do you have any suggestions on what I should do...(Keep it, abortion,adopt..ETC.)???
I don't care much if it's constructive criticism, as long as its a true opinion. All I'm asking for is your suggestion because I am still young, but yet could regret this for the rest of my life and have a guilty concious.
Please answer HONESTLY.
-Thanks-
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Well, the good news is that if you had your period more than a week after the last time you had sex you probably are not pregnant. The first and most trust-worthy sign of pregnancy is missing your period completely. Have you gotten it this month yet? If you have, then I wouldn't worry. If you have not yet gotten it and feel like you should have, then it may be time to get a pregnancy test or go see a doctor. Keep in mind that this is the time of year when lots of people get sick, so it could just be that. Also, if you were using birth control or a condom you're odds are better of not being pregnant.
As for giving my opinion on what to do if you are pregnant? Just take it one day at a time. Discuss your options with your doctor and then talk to some close people you trust... parents, friends, the ex. I don't think anyone can really tell you what to do. Having a child is a huge step and only you can decide if you are ready for that. Think about how you would feel in each circumstance. Would you be able to support a child? Do you have future plans that you can still carry out with a child? On the other hand, how would you feel having an abortion? Would you feel better giving it up for adoption or would that be too much for you to deal with?
Basically, there is no clear cut answer. You have to think about it and go with your gut... but before you worry about that, I would focus on where you are currently. Since you had your period I think you are fine but go get a test. It will take the burden off either way.
Also, I know this doesn't help you now, but you may want to consider getting on birth control in the future. It will make you feel much more secure and worry less. Planned Pregnancy offers it at little to no cost if that is a factor for you.
Good luck! I wish you all the best no matter what happens.
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Thank you so much. Your answer helped alot!
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