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Q: 15/f
Another fabulous love story. (Note the sarcasm)
I apologize in advance for the length, and thanks for reading.
Okay so i have known my friend Anna for maybe 4 years. We got really close the last 2, because we only saw each other once a week at dance classes. I recently moved, and now we go to the same school. PRIOR to me moving, I would go up to her school for different events (talent shows...plays, etc.) So i got to know all of her friends (who are now my friends, seeing as we all go to the same school.) and her boyfriend, jake. As soon as i saw him, i fell in love, okay not really in love, that takes time. But he was really sweet and funny and hes so cute. ANYWAY. The first time me and jake had met was about a yearish ago. Since then, we talked online almost everyday, and we had seen each other a few more times. Then, i had gone up to her school for a day to get to know everyone, and sort of take a tour and get the feel of everything. Anna and jake had a bunch of classes together, and i was tagging along with anna all day. Jake kept smiling at me and looking at me, and it was kinda weird because he was still dating anna at the time. They broke up a few weeks later, but not because of me. Anyway, a few weeks ago, i was talking to jake and he told my he loved me and thought i was really pretty. i was thrown off, because im not the girl who every guy is drooling over, and it kind of shocked me. So i told my friend from my old school, we'll call her mary, who doesnt know anna, but sort of knows jake, and mary asks me if i like jake. i told her the truth, i did. so she goes and tells jake, because she thinks shes doing a good thing, i was a little pissed at first, but i got over it. so after mary tells jake that i like him, jake confronts me about it. his words were something like well i like you and you like me woo. but he doesnt want a gf now, and i dont really want a bf now either.
im not sure what my questions is. i guess its what should i do? how should i act around jake (btw, anna and her friends DONT know i like him. and me and jake dont really talk in school, but when he walks my me in the hallway he'll tap my shoulder and walk away) would it be really bad for me to want to be with my friends ex? ahh
sorry guys, thanks so much. i just need to know what i should do :\\\
it's not bad to want to be with your friend's ex as long as shes over him. find out if she still likes him and stuff, or if shes over him already. since you both don't want a serious relationship right now, just keep being friends. only, maybe a little friendlier. that is, as long as anna is okay with it. the first thing you need to do is to explain to her that you like him now cos you guys have been talking. just don't tell her you've liked him since you met him, that'll be weird. it's better for her to find out from you than from someone else, right ? so talk to her first, and go from there.

thanks for youre help. sorry it was so long to read.
ill try to tell anna, but she hates him now. she says hes weird and stupid...so bringing him up in conversation will be hard, especially telling her i like him.. :\

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