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Q: 17/f

hey i think i have a crush on a girl my age on my rec softball team. we keep making eye contact with each other but we never talk. like i like the idea of me liking her but i dont like the idea of me kissing her. so i basically like the idea of her doing anything sexual with others..except when as its with me.

GOD ITS COMPLICATED.

so i want to be friends with her but its really awkward to be near her because of 2 reasons. 1) the eye contact thing makes me feel self-conscious around her and 2) her eyes are this deep deep hazel-green-blue mix and its hard for me to look away from her eyes. i knoww the 2nd reason is kind of BS but the first reason is true.

and sometimes i feel like she's following me, like ill sit on a place on the bench first and then she'll sit next to me. or when we do throwing drills ill pass/catch with my partner and then she'll lead her partner next to my group. anyone would think this is purely accidental but we've been sitting next to each other and doing drills next to each other for FIVE GAMES IN A ROW because of her! (well once it was because of me but thats because i wasnt paying attention lol)

shes a cool person and when we talk she usually starts it because this entire situation is too awkward for me for words.

um so ~in conclusionn~...

LOL i dont know what the hell im asking. this crush & the awkwardness is driving me insane and i just need advice..guidance..understanding words of wisdom..plz and ty

Well since this is your first crush on another girl it may be a little difficult to entertain the idea of yourself with her because its outside of your comfort zone and what you know/are use to.

It sounds like she might like you :P at least from what you've said.

Since this is your first girl crush, I suggest you go with the flow for a while. Your awkwardness probably stems from the newness of it all. Or you just really really like her. Either way, just hanging out with her should make you more comfortable around her. Whether it becomes more is a decision you can make later :)

if after spending more time with her you still really like her and you're willing to have a relationship with her, you should at least try. Having a lesbian crush is the same as having a straight one XD you just have to go for it. Obviously though you would want to find out if she is open to that, if you don't know already.

Lol I don't really know what else to say, except if you need any more help you can ask me directly :) I'm bisexual and I'd be more than willing to give you more advice about this if you have any more questions. :D

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