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Hi, I'm Andi! I hope to be a psychologist someday, and I like to think that I give pretty good advice.
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This may be long, and if it is I apologize in advance.

Three weeks ago we got a foreign exchange student, his name is Damon, and he's from Italy. (He's in my grade; I'm a junior) Normally foreign exchange students just fall into a certain group...like when we got a student from Spain, he just fell in with the Spanish speakers...but he's already extremly popular, and so many girls like him already. He's very good looking actually, and the sexy accent also adds to that. He's fair skinned, has black wavy hair that falls to his shoulders and dark green eyes.

Anyways, he's extraordinarily smart. He speaks Spanish, Italian, German, (Which I'm also fluent in)English, and French. He's in a lot of my AP classes and we were assigned to do a project together in my AP English class. It's a 10 page essay and we're supposed to work together.

So for the past week we've been meeting up after school and practice (He made Varsity soccer, and I'm a varsity cheerleader so we both have practice after school)at a cafe or some other place and we've been working together on this project we have. A few days ago when we were working he said "I think we've worked enough today, why don't we get to know eachother a little better" and I said okay. So we talked and I actually got to know him a lot better, there were some things he wouldn't talk about...like his family, but I learned we have the same taste in books and in music and he really is a great guy.

What I really like about him though is that he's a great listener and more mature than guys his age. He actually pays atention to me when I talk and looks at my eyes, not my... Anyway, he's so nice to me. He hugs me when he sees me in the halls and calls me beautiful and he's taken to calling me "principessa" which obviously means princess in English. We've also started to hang out when we're not working on the project. Sometimes he speaks to me in Italian, which I understand some, but I'm nowhere near fluent so I always say I don't understand. He just siles and says "Well I guess we're going to have to fix that aren't we?" And he has been teaching me some.

Here's the problem:
I can't tell if he likes me. If he was American then I'd say yah...but people tell me that's just the way Italian guys act? I have a bunch of girls telling me that what he's doing means nothing and that he's just a player, and that's just how Italian boys act around girls; they're just bg flirts... So now I'm all confused, and I don't know what to believe. I don't know if I want to get invlolved with a guy who may not even be in the staes a year from now...

Today my ex-boyfriend Theron came up to me and started harrasing me about Damon and then, poof, Damon shows up out of nowhere and all of a sudden there fighting. (Not phsically, but it probably would have gone there if I hadn't stopped them) Damons defending me because Theron's saying some pretty hurtful stuff...

After the mess of a fight Damon could tell I was upset so he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies, and I said yes. Afterward he drove me home and walked me to my door and he hugged me and then pulled away. I thought he was going to kiss me for a second, but them he just leaned down and kissed me on my forehead and said goodnight. Now I'm even more confused, because if he's playing a game then he's really good at it and now I like him more then ever...I don't know what to do anymore.



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I spend a month in Europe every month, so I know a lot about European guys, and they are always very gentlemanly and flirtacious. But he wouldn't ask you to the movies and kiss you on the forehead if he wasn't interested in you. Usually European guys just want to be gentlemen, so unlike American boys, they don't try and hook up with you on the first date. So I think he is trying to charm you. I don't think you even have to make a move or anything, he seems really confident and into you so just wait and if he wants a relationship with you, or anything, he will make a move.

Butttt my school has a lot of exchange students, and sometimes they just want to hook up with as many girls as possible. He seems sweet, though, so I doubt he just wants to get in your pants.


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Thank you so much.




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