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hey i'm courtney! :)i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.
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I'm 16/F
I've liked one of my best guy friends named Ben for a while but I'm not sure if he's considered a "jerk" and a bad guy for me. I'm wondering if I should let it go. I met a while ago and as soon as I saw him, I knew I wanted to find out who he was and talk to him. I noticed how nice and smart he was and he made me laugh more than anyone I know. We flirted for months and I never went a day without talking to him. We always texted each other from the beginning of school until the time I went to sleep and during class, he would only talk to me and ignore his rude friend who always cussed me and my friends out. He was picking me over his best friend. Eventually, he liked me, too, and even admitted "I can't keep myself away from you." But something happened over the summer and our differences got between us and we only talked about 2 times a month. I secretly still like him and I didn't stop the whole summer. On the first day of school I was walking and I looking around for my friends and I saw him. We were looking straight at each other for the first time in months and I choked up and turned away really quickly and hid. Childish, I know. Later on, my best friend told me he texted her asking about me and why I didn't talk to him and whatnot. So when I finally saw him, I jumped on his back like I always did. He just kept walking though because his best friends Luke and Sam kept telling him to and they kept telling Ben not to talk to me and telling me to go away. They were acting like they were 12! But the bad thing was Ben was listening to them and I couldn't understand why. First he complains I don't talk to him and then when i do, he runs away. I can't stand guys who are too influenced by their friends. He should make choices on his own. Should I let it slide or just ditch him forever? I mean, I can't imagine what he says if his friends tell him I'm ugly or whatever. He used to go around showing off that I liked him and acting like I'm his whore but I know he's a good guy. I never liked anyone for this much and I never wasted this much time on a guy. But should I just drop him because he does whatever they say? I just don't know anymore.
You should call him or meet him in person.
talk to him about the situation first.
Don't write him off just yet. If you are wasting this time on him you must like him enough right? Well, maybe since you two didn't talk much over the summer he thought you moved on anfd were too good for him. He might just be feeling rejected and so now he wants to agree with his jerk of friends. See how he feels and if he's still into you. and it'll all work out. :]
goodluck!
(Rating: 5) You have no idea how thankful I am for your advice. You put a much different perspective in my head. If I could rate you a 10, I most definitely would! :]