about

My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Ima junior and im still not sure what i want to do in life. Is that weird? I dont exactally have a love or desire to do anything, nor have i put much thought into it. I dont know if im gonna go to college, is that bad? What am i gonna do after high school? I know its all up to me but im totaly clueless. My parents dont encourage me to go to college and it kind of puts me down. It makes me feel like they know i cant do it or something. advice please!

You are not alone in your indecisiveness. I know college Juniors that have no idea what they want to be in life. There are lots of jobs you can get without going to college. For right now, focus on getting good grades and enjoying your high school years. Once you graduate, if you still don't feel up for college, take a year to just work and see how you feel after that.

You are still very young and you have a lot of options to choose from. Nobody said that in order to get a good career you had to attend college right away.

Your parents are probably just trying not to pressure you. I'm sure they mean well by their actions because they just want you to be able to make this decision for yourself. I wouldn't worry about that too much.

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(Rating: 5) thanks, this helped me alot :)
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