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My boyfriend of 3 months and i broke up a week ago today. I have had the worst week and the stupid thing is, its all over the reasoning as to why we broke up. You see, things had been weird with him the week leading up to the breakup and i asked him what was wrong and he told me the news... hes moving at the end of the year. ten hours away to be exact.

I messaged him telling him that I didnt want to wait around to have my heart broken at the end of the year and he agreed that it would be 'smart' of us to break it off sooner rather than later. He said letting me go was going to be hard but it was better this way.

The thing is... i know i love him. And that I really just want to be with him. We are still friends but have stopped the whole couples thing (no touching...no kissing etc) but everytime i see him i just want to fall back into his arms and be how we used to be.

He told me the only thing that would change would be that we wouldnt do couple things but we could still go over to each others houses and be good friends and that he would always love me.

I really dont know what i should do, do i gradually de-attach myself?

Is it wrong to feel like this, and should i try and mask my feelings of love from him?

Was it smart to break up now and save the heartbreak later? Should I tell him how i feel or would that just make him feel worse for moving when i know he doesnt want to?

Is it wrong to feel jealous when i see him talking and mucking around with other girls and is it wrong to still message him and talk to him at school AND have him over at my house like old times?

HELP!!!!

Personally, I don't think you should have broken up at all, him moving is just a way of seeing how strong your love for him really is. Tell him and get back together. You can always see each other over holiday brakes and the summer. Good luck.

Hope this helps,
AlyssaBT4T

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much for the help, what u said really makes sense!
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