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I'm 17 years old, I've been a cheerleader basically my whole life, It's a great SPORT.. I love it. I've been through so much in my life that no one really knows about. I've matured so much throughout high school it's unbelievable. I learned how important family is, in the end they'll always be there for you. I've delt with more then normal teenagers my age have. I live in a very wealthy area where most of the kids have parents who pay for everything and they don't understand the value of money. I moved when I was in third grade because my parents got divorced. From experiences i've had to deal with, I have become extremly independent and appreciative of everything I have. I joined this advice website because I was looking for advice on something, but then when I looked more into it I realized that I could give advice to people... I think i've experienced everything that people ask questions about.. and I love helping people out. I'm an extremly caring person.. and I hate drama(who doesn't?) I love to cheer, tumble, workout, be active etc... I had a boyfriend for about 3 years through high school.. 2 years older then me.. we broke up because of college. I can give great relationship advice as well as family/friends or anything else you want to know!!

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okay well you probably hear this type of question a lot..

but anyways about a week ago me and my boyfriend broke up and we were going out for about half a year and i really loved him a lot, but i found out he cheated on me with my cousin, it wasnt like a big deal to me though but my cousin made up some stuff and said i was sneaking around with this other guy when i truthfully wasnt she just said that to him so he would brake up with me so she could have him, we wernt going to brake up when i found out he cheated on me, we toked it over and they only kissed so it didnt bother me really, but my cousin lives right down the road from him and she got him to brake up with me and go out with her. its only been a week since we broke up and shes been going out with him for like 3 days and is acting like she has fallen in love already and stuff and i know my ex very well and i know he doesnt like that type of girl i think he might be using her for sex.. and yah i dont know what i should do like i have tried so many things to try to getr my mind off him .. i went out with friends and done all diffrent types of things but everyday i have cried on and off and last night i reallt broke down crying, it was really bad i dont know what i should do to try to get over him because it hurts really bad and i cant take feeling like this anymore but i cant help it.. also i know i could get him back and i really want him back.. but everyone is telling me to move on.. should i move on? or wait untill he uses my cousin? ah im so confused and also my friends told me to try rebounding like into another relationship, theres this guy who i think is cute and he likes me .. is rebounding healthy?


any advice is appreciated.
thanks.

Hey.. I saw your question.. and I have been through that feeling too... when my boyfriend and I broke up I seriously didn't know what to do with myself.. I didn't understand why it was so hard for me to move on..I would break down all the time..and I was completley unhappy.. it's taken me a while to figure things out..but I've really matured and learned alot from that relationship...I know what you mean when you say you tried going out and staying busy but it didn't help all that much..that's how i felt too..so I thought to myself..the relationship I was in was impossible because of college and everything. You need to build your confidence.. do something you are interested in and set goals for yourself.. working out, a sport, club, job etc... find something you really would love to succeed in and focus all your attention to that. You need to realize that you deserve sooooo much more then your ex boyfriend ..I mean come on he cheated.. there's no excuse for cheating. He probably won't come back to you now because he knows you'll always be there waiting and he can come back to you whenever he wants.. build your confidence, meet other guys and just have a good time. Don't ever text/call or talk to him unless he talks to you first... and if he does.. be short with him but act like you've never been happier.. or if he calls be like o well i have to go I have plans or stuff to do.. talk to you later..you know? so he'll be like what?? she doesn't want to talk to me.. guys always want what they cant have.. by the time you build your confidence and you're happy with yourself again he will want you so bad.. but you won't even be interested because you're so much better then that!!!! seriously... I believe in karma.. and I believe that "everything happens for a reason".. maybe you'll learn something out of this relationship and become a stronger person.. !! stay positive.. you can do it!

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