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Q: Ok it seems that all my parents care is getting me to university.

There's these 4 things our teacher said we can go to: college, university, aprenticeship, and some other thing.

They say that depends on what you want to be is whether you go to university, college, etc but my dad keeps saying that university is for everything and that university are for the smarter peolple. is that true?

They don't even think about it at all, it doesn't matter what i want to be or not, all they care is getting me into a university.

I mean im the smartest in my class but I can't help but wonder, why university?

I'm about to enter high shcool is year and the stress of abandoning my friends were enough but then Im scared of entering high shcool, even though everyone says i'll do fine with my brain.

But eventually, everyone will crack at some point in high shcool. Even i did a couple of times this year. There's just no breaks! And then after you graduate high shcool you enter one of those four things for how many years! I want to be in the medical field so there will be no rest in what i have to work for and I'll be trapped in school for like 20 years! I'm very obsessed with cleaness and don't like living in apartments where other peope used to live before.

I don't know why i'm so stressed but can't you be super successful without going to university?

I mean, Ijust want a quick way out but be successful at the same time.

Ever since i was small, I imagined myself setting down in a family at a very young age
like probably 22, a house wife with kids and on some days work at soemthing medical while still shopping and hanging out with my friends, have money and finally use them in my own ways instead of my parents holding me down on what I want to buy, and just having a free life but successful at a yougn and early age and still look great or decent.

But going to university for medical reasons will make me come out really old and I won't be able to have a lot of kids or else it would make people see me as un professional and probably a slut for having a baby while i'm a doctor, a very clean reputative career.

I don't know why I'm writing this cuz it may seem far away but not really.

And some of you might say, why can't you choose a different carreer? Well i think it's because being somethign medical is the only or one of the most wise jobs to be cuz you can be a computer programer or a singer but it's really useless. You can live without listening to others sing with cds and things and you can certainly live WITHOUT a computer but in the medical feilds you can actually save a life. Can you save someone from music? It may really make you feel better but it won't heal you from dying.

Does anyone have opinions to share? any things that you agree on? I want to see if there's even a chance my dream future can happen and stay on reality instead of day dream land and get a grip on myself.

Maybe I'm holding onto such a high standard for myself?

Maybe i just want to acheive a very high goal yet still look good? Maybe I'm Vain? Maybe I'm selfish?
why a univeristy ? a university is the best choice if possible. those who attend universitys have more choices as to what they want to do with their life. they have more options, and are seeked more in whatever career they would like to pursue. having a child early as a doctor is not slutty. slutty is having a child before you are married which has nothing to do with your career choice. of course to work in the medical field you don't have to go to a university or take a long time. if you are positive that's what you would like to do, you can just go to a trade school for nursing. you don't need great credentials, and you will still be in the medical field and make good money, as well as have an in-demand career which means, basically, that you will most likely be able to get a job anywhere and anytime you would like. although being a nurse in some places is pretty hectic, some of the hours are pretty good. for example, you might work for two days straight, and then get two days off, which i think is pretty great. this does sound good, but if you attend a trade school for nursing and then decide that is not what you would like to continue doing with your life, then you would have to go back to college. i think you should look into other career options, but keep that in the back of your mind. although doctors are more respectable and make more money, a nurses paycheck is pretty good as well. my friend's mom is a nurse and eanrs 50$ an hour. this way, you can work for a year, take a year off, and if you would like to work again and earn more money, you can get a job again anytime, because like i said, nurses are in demand these days. just keep thinking about what you want, but focus more on what you like. it's better to live life doing what you like than just trying to make money.

thanks

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