Okay my last thing about me thing thing made me seem like a flaming homosexual.
Let me start over. Ha.
My name's Derrek.
I'm turning 16 on June 29, 2007. :]
Yay.
I'm gay; you homophobes can go drink bleach for all I care.
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hey people,
im a young male and im talkin about my girlfriend
i had just had my girlfriend break up with me a couple of days ago and it was really hard on me. I was the cause of the breakup because i wasn't being open enough to her and when she said "i feel like im neglecting you," and just said no and she asked if something was wrong and i said no. when we hung up i had decided that i needed to tell her what i felt so i messaged her and said honestly i do feel neglected and she got mad because i didnt talk to her on the phone when i had the chance. so she got mad and later said you no i'm mad at you and im fed up with your shit. so she had ended it and she said i just havent felt like we are close like we were at first. this all hurt me bad and she wouldn't talk to me because i wanted to talk to her and explain to her how i felt.
so the next day she ignored me and i couldnt talk to her and the next day i tried to get her off my mind but it didnt work so i went to my dad and brother to talk to them about it. i had listened to them and they had the same points.
so what i did was go to her house the next day with out her knowing and had a bunch of nice flowers. She had a smile on her face and didnt seem mad at me so i take that as being good?. i gave her the flowers and went into her room to talk to her. i told her that i really like her and i really care for her. i said you no every relationship has rough patches and you have to try to get through them instead of just quitting on the relationship. (she promised herself that she would never give a guy a second chance by the way.) i just asked her if she could promise me that she will think about a second chance while she was in colorado (this was later in the talk that i had asked her if she would think about a second chance). she said i will and i said the way u had ended it really hurt me alot and i just wanted her to think about the second chance for more than just one day. just please think about it because the idea of being without you really hurts because i care for you and i want to be there for you. she said she would think about it while she was there. the next thing i said was you know this is my first true relationship and im goin to make mistakes and i will admit when i do and im willing to try to work on that and i really want to be open with you and try to stop arguing about little things. just promise me you will think about the second chance and get back to me when you get back. i really care for you and we gave each other a huge hug and i told her in her ear that i really care for you and i said i need to go because i just wanted to say this and be on my way and not get in ur way. and oh yeah i told her the reasons why i felt why we were growing apart earlier. and i also said im not goin to beg or force you for the second chance and i wont talk to you or text you while you're up there so that gives you your freedom to think. then came the hug and leaving part. some of this wasn't in the right order but you get the idea. so can ya'll tell me if i did the right thing?
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Wow. That is seriously really sweet. Kay, so listen, you did the right thing completely. Guys are so not open. With all my ex-boyfriends, they would never tell me ANYTHING, I would get really fed up, I mean, I still do, but when guys are ready to open up, they will. You need to tell her about the whole "I'll talk to you when I'm ready" type thing. Girls feel like they're not trusted, and it's a pretty bad feeling when it comes from someone you really care about. You can tell her that you DO trust her, it's just hard to say, and such.
I hope I was of some help.
If she doesn't come back to you then she's psycho.:]
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thank you for reading this and giving me advice. i appreciate what you had to say. thank you
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