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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Okay. I have a friend.It is not me, i swear on everything i own. She is in PlayBoy. She said she is scared to stop being in PlayBoy because her boyfriend. She says "He cannot live with out his sex every night. I am trying to help her get out of this, but she is affraid of him not loving her. I told her if that is all he wants than he is not in love with her, just in love with her butt and body.I dont know what to tell her. I am a little young to say stop. I dont know what to do to help her. P.S. She is a friend over the internet, so i dont know her address or phone number. Please help
---Simone411---

The only thing you can do is remind her that this guy doesn't really love her. And you already did tell her that, so there's nothing you can do. If she wants to throw away her life over some guy who just wants her for sex, there's no stopping her. I say let it go and allow her to learn from her mistakes. You tried telling her, but she wouldn't listen, so just let it go. She'll just have to learn the hard way sooner or later.

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(Rating: 4) It was good. But I think that i might try to convince her a little bit. I dont want to her to get killed
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