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Q: I've had my period for about 6 years now, and this whole time it has never been regular. I get it pretty much whenever it feels like coming, twice a month, skip a mont or two, get it for 2 weeks straight.... It's ridiculous. Ontop of it being irregular, I have the WORST PMS, terrible cramps to the point where I can't stand up straight, the WORST mood swings and so many aches and pains.

My doctor had suggested for me to go on birth control to make my period come on time, and to help with my PMS. I talked to my mom about it, and she doesn't want me to go on birth control because she says it's not safe. I even had my doctor sit and talk to her about it but she won't let me go on it. She says that it means I will start having sex and that she doesn't want that happening.

However, what she does not know, I have been sexually active for about 2-3 years now. I haven't been recently because my boyfriend and I broke up, but I do use a condom.

My question is how can I get my mom to let me go on birth control? Or, how can I go on it without her knowing about it? I know I can go to Planned Parenthood, but I don't know how I'd be able to get myself there because I don't have a car of my own, and I just moved to a new state and I don't know ANYONE.

I really want to go on it, my period is out of control and I DO want to protect myself more when I become sexually active again. Any suggestions?

How would your mom react if you told her that you were already sexually active??

She would most definitely let you do it then. I'm guess your in your late teens since you can drive and you had your period for 6 years, So ask to use the car. Even if you do go threw your doctor and get them, they cant tell her that your on them. Its doctor patient confidentiality. Ask your doctor if he can do it without her consent and see what he/she says.

Rating: 4

If she knew I was having sex she would cut my throat. And I'm not just saying that.

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