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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

I need some serious help.
Okay, I'm 17/m and was hit by cupids arrow about a year and a half ago. However, recently my gf, that I'm still completely in love with, has gone out of town and out of reach (3 hour drive with no car working full time at a restaurant) for the entire summer.
Now, there's this friend of mine. She's very cute in her own way and because of mine and her past relationship were really flirty when were by each other. The thing is I can't control myself when I'm close to her and I go completely nuts (out of my mind) and do things I would never even think about with any other woman (except my gf). I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how do I keep myself from having to make that decision without hurting anyone.

P.S. I'm still extremely in love with my gf as far as I've told her I want a family with her.

Thank you for all your help.

I think what you're asking is "How do I stop myself from cheating?"

If that's the case, then STAY AWAY from that girl! If you're scared you'll get carried away and do something you'll regret later, then don't even put yourself in the situation to do so. If you ever feel tempted to do something you shouldn't, stop and think "Would this hurt my girlfriend? The girl I love with all my heart?"

You can still be friends with the girl as long as you can control yourself. If not, just stay away.

If you love your girlfriend as much as you say, this wouldn't be such a big deal. Stop and think about what makes YOU happy. If being with your current girlfriend isn't making you completely happy, change wouldn't be such a bad thing.

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