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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

ok here it goes i am 15/f and well i think i could be pregnant i don't know for sure but i have no clue what i would do if i found out for sure that is all i think about lately but what would i do my family well we already have family problems the way it is right now and a baby would just ruin my family and i wouldn't be able to go to school where i go now because i couldn't dare listen to what people have to say about it i don't know what to do and how to cope with it um lets see if i was pregnant abortion is out of the question and adoption would be way to hard to do maybe i should just take a pregnancy test but i don't know how to get one without anyone asking questions

Don't be scared to go buy a pregnancy test. All you have to do is walk up to the pharmacy and ask them to help you in choosing a test. Remember, the people are there to help you... NOT judge you. Try not to jump to conclusions until you know FOR SURE.

Once you take the pregnancy test, if it comes out positive, call your doctor's office and explain the situation. They will arrange to have a private doctor's appointment and your parents won't have to know. Once you meet with the doctor and find out 100% whether or not you are pregnant, they will help discuss your options with you.

I know you are scared right now, but you have to think positive. Even if you were pregnant and you think you're parents will freak, you'd be surprised how things like these pull families together. You know you made a mistake and you're going to fix it.

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(Rating: 5) thanks alot i might just wait until i actually can tell thank you
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