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hey i'm courtney! :)
i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.

advice

sorry if this is long but it's making me so upset.

so i went out with 'tom' for almost a year and a half. it was good in the beginning but after awhile i began to like him less and less. it came to the point that the last few months i couldn't even stand him and he was annoying and i ended up always being mean to him because of this. well, while we were going out, there was this girl at work and they always flirted with eachother. in his yearbook she signed a full page saying how much of a best friend he was, and i love you about 10 times atleast. i was there when he was reading it and he just had the biggest smile on his face. he always had stories about her and i asked him, why do you always talk about her. and all he said was because he worked with her. he used to call me right when we got home from school, at 2:30, but for the last few months the only time we would talk (if he worked) was 3 minutes while he was on his way to work. then, one day i saw him walking and he had a big smile on his face, talking on the phone with someone. this was the same day i read the yearbook. i told my friend, if he's talking to 'kayla', i'm going to be so pissed off. and i call him, and im like so who were you talking to, "oh, kayla." oh, why? "i just wanted to know who we were working with today" .. oh okay.
seriously, he couldn't wait two hours to SEE who he was working with? did it really matter that much. okay so moving on. i started to get really annoyed by him, so i knew it had to be done because i was wasting both our time, and i dumped him. well he was all like we should stay friends and not stop talking and blah blah blah. well we were okay with calling every couple days, not really serious, and talking. then we stopped talking for a week or more. (i dumped him around 3 weeks ago). so i saw this girl that works with him, and i was told that he went on a DATE with kayla. i was so pissed off. seriously, i knew that they liked eachother WHEN we were going out. oh yeah, and while we were going out, she had a boyfriend that she's been going out for almost TWO YEARS. and a few days ago, they broke up. imagine the coincidence? now we barely talk anymore, and i was kind of talking to him online and he's all like "you were so mean to me for the last 3 months and i know you were serious even though you say you were just kidding. that's why i'm almost over you" this is coming from the kid that was head over heals for me (not to sound conceited), and was so upset when i wanted to on a break. it's been two weeks after our year and a half relationship, and he's already dating some girl. i'm so upset about this. i even told my friends, even if he went out with the prettiest girl in the world, or even one of my FRIENDS, i wouldn't care as much. it's just the fact that it was her. it's not like i like him anymore, maybe i do .. but i thought i didn't for MONTHS at a time. i want to not care anymore, but it's killing me just knowing that they like eachother and it's over. i don't know what to do. we barely talk anymore, it's all her now. how can i stop caring so much, and move on?

First of all,
he was a jerk! You were mean to him subconciously b/c he was flirting and talking to Kayla. He shouldn't of been talking with her or be 'best' friends with her. You were his girlfriend! So that's probably why. & I would have done the same thing if I was in your position. You were right to break up with him. He wasn't repspecting you enough. As for Kayla, okay if she had a boyfriend the whole time, then that says what kind of a person she is. She's pathetic and was jealous of what you had. They both deserve to be losers together. Now, I would still have feelings for Tom if I was you, which I know you must... It's hard to deal with I'm sure. But, try and look optimistic from now on. Atleast you did it before he might of cheated on you. & now you can find a new guy eventually. One who is faithful to you.
Try venting to your friends and spend time with them. Keep busy so your mind doesn't keep reflecting on the situation. Good luck sweetie. :)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks so much .. that's what I've been doing .. hanging out with my friends everyday & telling them everything haha. It's helping a little bit, but it's just everytime I think about them my stomach gets all knotted. It sucks. :[
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